I have been to both my grandparents graves once since they passed. Also I have gone to a gravesite in SoutheastvIiwa where a founding father of my Fraternity was buried in like 1880 or something like that.
Do you visit graves/cemeteries?
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I visit my grandparents' graves at least once a year. Don't usually bring flowers though. I put some small flat smooth stones on their graves years ago and they're still there. When they disappear I'll put new ones on.
Graves are sacred. I visit my immediate family whenever I can. I have also been to cemeteries all over to visit many ancestors dating back hundreds of years. Growing up we always went to visit family graves and take in the service on Memorial day. But I do visit when able other times too.
Cemeteries are a wealth of information about you and your ancestry. As someone who is very into genealogy, I have linked a lot of my ancestry through Cemeteries and their records.
I think anyone who vandalizes cemeteries should be locked up and the key thrown away. The amount of disrespect and disregard those people have is immeasurable. They destroy things for fun, for no reason.
I believe I have ancestors in multiple cemeteries that have been completely destroyed. 2 of which were just plowed under and the headstones thrown out, for the farmland. 1 that has been vandalized to the point that half the graves are unmarked or most of the stones damaged to the point of being unreadable. And a couple others that have been taken by large cities to build buildings on top. Nothing pisses me off more than those places and the loss of that record.
Some think its not important, etc. But I do. How many people 200 years ago, would think I would go visit their graves today? Probably not many. But I do. It is a window into their life.
Cemeteries are a wealth of information about you and your ancestry. As someone who is very into genealogy, I have linked a lot of my ancestry through Cemeteries and their records.
I think anyone who vandalizes cemeteries should be locked up and the key thrown away. The amount of disrespect and disregard those people have is immeasurable. They destroy things for fun, for no reason.
I believe I have ancestors in multiple cemeteries that have been completely destroyed. 2 of which were just plowed under and the headstones thrown out, for the farmland. 1 that has been vandalized to the point that half the graves are unmarked or most of the stones damaged to the point of being unreadable. And a couple others that have been taken by large cities to build buildings on top. Nothing pisses me off more than those places and the loss of that record.
Some think its not important, etc. But I do. How many people 200 years ago, would think I would go visit their graves today? Probably not many. But I do. It is a window into their life.
Every Memorial Day I visit with my dad cemeteries/gravesites where my mom, grandparents and aunts/uncles are buried to place flowers at the graves. We visit my mom's grave and place flowers more frequently.
I find walking cemeteries enjoyable and a historical reminder as my grandparents grew up in a small town and there are dozens of graves for the extended family.
I find walking cemeteries enjoyable and a historical reminder as my grandparents grew up in a small town and there are dozens of graves for the extended family.
Years ago I'd go running in cemeteries around Sioux City all the time, most have insane hills so it was quite a workout. I never thought it might be disrespectful, hopefully it wasn't. Since I moved away I always lived near some huge sort of park instead.
We had a family tradition when my dad was alive, he and his sister would visit 5 or 6 cemeteries every year and decorate a dozen or so graves. After he passed, I tried to keep up the tradition but I haven't been able to do quite as good as he did. He only decorated with real flowers the grew himself for the purpose of putting on graves. I
Rulzzz, most of CF would visit out of respect for you.
My parents and grandparents always decorated graves on Memorial Day and now I decorate theirs. In addition to flowers, I always put a can of Hamm’s on my dad’s grave.
Never, ever go to my parents' or in-laws' graves.
Used to go just to scout tombstones in other languages (there are a ton of Welsh headstones in Centerville from when it was a coal-mining hub) and now sometimes go just to see unusual headstones. Like this one in Ottumwa...
Here's his story: https://www.ottumwa.us/departments/cemetery/the_dog/
Used to go just to scout tombstones in other languages (there are a ton of Welsh headstones in Centerville from when it was a coal-mining hub) and now sometimes go just to see unusual headstones. Like this one in Ottumwa...
Here's his story: https://www.ottumwa.us/departments/cemetery/the_dog/
The last two years, my wife has collected artificial flowers at garage sales and flea markets. Then she makes three saddles for the headstones of her parents, grandparents and sister located in the cemetery in our town. Those are placed on Memorial Day. She also places a Christmas Wreath by each in the winter. That was something she did with her mom before her passing. My parents are in a cemetery in western Iowa. I visit if I’m close and take flowers if the time of year is right. My parents took flowers to the cemetery every Memorial Day.
When I am in your hometown I try to visit family graves including that of my little brother. It is very infrequent though.
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I visit my grandmother when I'm in Des Moines, but I won't have a grave for myself. I'll be cremated, or potentially taxidermied.
This site really shows how important cemeteries are to many people. Everything on this site is put there by people volunteering to do it. I have requested many pictures of family graves far from my home, and I have added many photos and info for my family and for others requesting them in my area.
There are groups of people that go and restore stones, find and reclaim lost cemeteries etc all over. A head stone is a monument to you, it says you were here, and you meant something, to someone. And is there for generations to go and see, and to link themselves to you.
www.findagrave.com
There are groups of people that go and restore stones, find and reclaim lost cemeteries etc all over. A head stone is a monument to you, it says you were here, and you meant something, to someone. And is there for generations to go and see, and to link themselves to you.
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No, I'm getting cremated. Always thought it would be cool to be dispersed into the wind on some mountain top. Been thinking about it lately and don't think I'll get as dispersed as much as I'd like. Now I'm thinking about having my remains put in a talcum powder container, label it "Pole Dust", and toss me into some Las Vegas strip club dressing room. Figure in a week I'll be international.
Well to be fair I have multiple relatives that have been cremated, but they all still got headstones, some had their urn buried at the headstone, some not. But all had a monument as a remembrance. Some have a vault with a plaque at a cemetery for their ashes.
With that, I have been involved with fireworks for years, and I know people that custom build fireworks for people's ashes to be shot in fireworks shells.
I'm drawn to small rural cemeteries and I'd like to repair fallen stones when I retire in a few years.
My 4X Great Grandfather died in the Civil War (illness) and is interred in a beautiful Military Cemetery in a residential neighborhood in New Albany, IN. He left a widow and five children in Terre Haute, IN. In 1868, his aged parents (from Tennessee) joined my widowed Grandmother and the five children (in Terre Haute), and together they moved to what is now a ghost town in Guthrie County. All that remains now are two houses and a church restored by the Historical Society some years ago. I have three generations of grandfather (5X, 3X & 2X) and many other relatives in Glendon Cemetery, which probably hasn't seen an interment since the 1960's. There's a crooked hand-painted sign on a telephone pole beside the gravel road, directing you down a grass lane between a farm shed and a field. I visit whenever I find myself in west-central Iowa and the farmer seems to recognize me. I assume he's the one who cuts the grass. Otherwise, time stands still.
My 4X Great Grandfather died in the Civil War (illness) and is interred in a beautiful Military Cemetery in a residential neighborhood in New Albany, IN. He left a widow and five children in Terre Haute, IN. In 1868, his aged parents (from Tennessee) joined my widowed Grandmother and the five children (in Terre Haute), and together they moved to what is now a ghost town in Guthrie County. All that remains now are two houses and a church restored by the Historical Society some years ago. I have three generations of grandfather (5X, 3X & 2X) and many other relatives in Glendon Cemetery, which probably hasn't seen an interment since the 1960's. There's a crooked hand-painted sign on a telephone pole beside the gravel road, directing you down a grass lane between a farm shed and a field. I visit whenever I find myself in west-central Iowa and the farmer seems to recognize me. I assume he's the one who cuts the grass. Otherwise, time stands still.
I am not a fan of hanging onto ashes in the house.
Old guy down the street died and wife’s ashes were in an urn on mantle. The grandkids and great grandkids emptied out hunting guns and what little else there was of value, but left Grammy’s ashes. The property was in bad shape and the city hired a guy to empty out the property. He knocked on our door trying to hunt down the family when he found the urn and I gave him a contact who finally came and picked up grandma. The poor guy was about to pay to have a stranger’s ashes interred when the granddaughter finally showed up. It kind of creeps me out to think a lesser person would have probably tossed the urn in the dumpster.
Old guy down the street died and wife’s ashes were in an urn on mantle. The grandkids and great grandkids emptied out hunting guns and what little else there was of value, but left Grammy’s ashes. The property was in bad shape and the city hired a guy to empty out the property. He knocked on our door trying to hunt down the family when he found the urn and I gave him a contact who finally came and picked up grandma. The poor guy was about to pay to have a stranger’s ashes interred when the granddaughter finally showed up. It kind of creeps me out to think a lesser person would have probably tossed the urn in the dumpster.
I have to come to realize that this thread is where my posts belong... unceremoniously buried in a pauper's grave. I tried.
