What a horrible situation.
I can't help but deepy feel for their surviving daughter....the trauma she experienced as her own dad tried to choke her out, leave, and then find out not only he kills himself but also your brother and mom.
I also cant imagine the challenge her and others will have at the memorial. It appears all three family are part of the service.
Remember a few years back when that guy by Iowa City killed his family then drove into a bridge? I remember the faith community struggling with how to navigate that grieving.
I don't think it is just the faith community that struggles in those situations, I would venture to guess that everyone struggles with those situations.