We rented a Grand Highlander for two weeks on vacation. If we were in the market for a new vehicle, that trip would have sold us on it.
I've got a 4Runner that's 9 years old and 130k on the clock. Besides the battle damage that comes with kids sports, it's still in great shape. My plan is to have it end up being the car the kids drive when they get that age, so 5 more years.
I'd echo the advice for getting a Consumer Reports subscription, especially if you're buying used. They should highlight any discovered issues with a particular make and model. And never buy the first model year of a refresh.