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cowgirl836 said:
I may have also sent Dh a pic of a little baby pouting yesterday. That was pretty cute.

I may be reluctant a good bit because DH says things will change with a baby but I'd prefer evidence of that now. Like I get up before him and go to work earlier. I don't really want to get up a ton earlier/have to stop being able to get myself nicely ready. He says he'd get up same as me and could get a baby ready. And then he'd go to work earlier. Cause that's the other thing, he is not often home before 7pm and on nights we go to the gym, it's closer to 8. He does work longer days than I, but he's not getting to work until pushing 9 when I'm in at 8. So I'm picturing future me - who would want to keep doing the gym thing on Mon/Wed - not getting home til 6:30 with a baby who probably needs to be fed, bathed, and put to bed right away. Then I still need to shower and make dinner. I don't picture enjoying that constant stress and rushing around. He says he'd get up sooner and leave work earlier but I'd like to see that he could do that now, because right now I picture it all falling on my head. I tend to believe him that he would change his habits but again, I like solid proof.
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CG, I know you like to have things organized and planned out to the nth degree, but the truth is planning and adult schedules go out the window when you start having kids. That's NOT a bad thing. It's simply the way things are. Your little bundle will require the lion's share of the available time and focus because they can't do things for themselves...and sometimes other things have to go on hold for a couple of years (or longer with additional kids). You'll find new ways to exercise (like Rev doing pushups with Z weight on her back). You and DH may change your hours a bit at work. You may find a VB or Dodgeball league where they have a kiddy corral, or maybe you'll alternate playing time. There's all kinds of ways you might adapt. The one thing you won't be able to do is plan it all out in advance. :)
 
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wxman1 said:
It is all an adventure. You will adjust your habits and plans because 99% of daycares require you to pick up your kids by no later than 5:30 (some are 5) before you start incurring late fees. Whether you like it or not the kid is in charge for a while.
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I think the ones around here are 6/6:30. Which is fine cause if going to gym, either DH or I would pick up and drop at the gym daycare for a little bit. If they are 5:30 it would just mean it'd be me picking up and not DH. That part should be ok.
 
cowgirl836 said:
ok let's be really honest, if I super wanted a baby right now I'd be able to ignore everything I just posted and say it would all work out. I don't like change and the unknown. That's what this really is. Also don't want to become out of shape CG again.
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Yeah...that's the unfair part; the woman has the most recovery to do. OTOH, wouldn't trade feeling that baby kicking for the world. :)
 
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cowgirl836 said:
I may have also sent Dh a pic of a little baby pouting yesterday. That was pretty cute.

I may be reluctant a good bit because DH says things will change with a baby but I'd prefer evidence of that now. Like I get up before him and go to work earlier. I don't really want to get up a ton earlier/have to stop being able to get myself nicely ready. He says he'd get up same as me and could get a baby ready. And then he'd go to work earlier. Cause that's the other thing, he is not often home before 7pm and on nights we go to the gym, it's closer to 8. He does work longer days than I, but he's not getting to work until pushing 9 when I'm in at 8. So I'm picturing future me - who would want to keep doing the gym thing on Mon/Wed - not getting home til 6:30 with a baby who probably needs to be fed, bathed, and put to bed right away. Then I still need to shower and make dinner. I don't picture enjoying that constant stress and rushing around. He says he'd get up sooner and leave work earlier but I'd like to see that he could do that now, because right now I picture it all falling on my head. I tend to believe him that he would change his habits but again, I like solid proof.
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Just tell your baby not to wake up too early so you can get the proper amount of sleep and have adequate time to get yourself ready.

Problem solved.
 
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CG, I know you like to have things organized and planned out to the nth degree, but the truth is planning and adult schedules go out the window when you start having kids. That's NOT a bad thing. It's simply the way things are. Your little bundle will require the lion's share of the available time and focus because they can't do things for themselves...and sometimes other things have to go on hold for a couple of years (or longer with additional kids). You'll find new ways to exercise (like Rev doing pushups with Z weight on her back). You and DH may change your hours a bit at work. You may find a VB or Dodgeball league where they have a kiddy corral, or maybe you'll alternate playing time. There's all kinds of ways you might adapt. The one thing you won't be able to do is plan it all out in advance. :)
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I know this is true but I wish to keep living in my false reality.
 
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cowgirl836 said:
I think the ones around here are 6/6:30. Which is fine cause if going to gym, either DH or I would pick up and drop at the gym daycare for a little bit. If they are 5:30 it would just mean it'd be me picking up and not DH. That part should be ok.
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If so that is great. One of my co-workers brings their son to my wife and they have a similar set as you granted they don't go to the gym. She goes to work early (7ish I think) and aims to leave by 4 to pick him up. Her husband generally doesn't head to work until 8-9ish so he drops off.

If you have one of the nicer newer Ys they usually include 2 hours of free childcare per visit with a family membership.
 
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Yeah...that's the unfair part; the woman has the most recovery to do. OTOH, wouldn't trade feeling that baby kicking for the world. :)
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honestly if DH could get pregnant we'd probably have done so by now. There's a lot of mental hangups in there for me when I think about post-baby. It is neat to see the now quite pregnant girl in my gym class. I'm like yes, I can do that too! The best part is I totally thought it was her first kid and then one night I saw her walking out with two little kids. Blew my mind. Found out last week that another woman who has gone to my class for quite a while is expecting her first. So it's reassuring to see.
 
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cowgirl836 said:
ok let's be really honest, if I super wanted a baby right now I'd be able to ignore everything I just posted and say it would all work out. I don't like change and the unknown. That's what this really is. Also don't want to become out of shape CG again.
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Kids are awesome. But if you're not ready, don't rush it. Don't let your mom or mother in law tell you when to have kids. As long as you and DH are happy, that's what matters.

You're young and you have plenty of time to make babies. If you're ok with being an older mom, then wait till you're 30. No big deal.

I love being a dad. My kids mean more to me than my job ever will. It's just a means for me to support my family. Still, I kind of wish I had been more stable financially before I had kids. But it all worked out pretty well.

Once you have kids, there's no going back to that "just you and DH" mode. You basically sacrifice a huge chunk of your social life and free time for baby time. You get some back when they get old enough not to poop themselves all the time, but then you get into their extra curriculars and such.

Be young, have fun, make and save/spend money while you can. Then, when you two are ready to drop some babies, you can be ALL IN as parents.
 
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cyhiphopp said:
Kids are awesome. But if you're not ready, don't rush it. Don't let your mom or mother in law tell you when to have kids. As long as you and DH are happy, that's what matters.

You're young and you have plenty of time to make babies. If you're ok with being an older mom, then wait till you're 30. No big deal.

I love being a dad. My kids mean more to me than my job ever will. It's just a means for me to support my family. Still, I kind of wish I had been more stable financially before I had kids. But it all worked out pretty well.

Once you have kids, there's no going back to that "just you and DH" mode. You basically sacrifice a huge chunk of your social life and free time for baby time. You get some back when they get old enough not to poop themselves all the time, but then you get into their extra curriculars and such.

Be young, have fun, make and save/spend money while you can. Then, when you two are ready to drop some babies, you can be ALL IN as parents.
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no pressure from my family.......yet. I always said I'd have kids before my mom's age when she had me. That means I've got until Feb 2018, holy ****. Hahahaha, it's so weird how things have changed through my 20's. Always figured I'd have 2 kids or so by now. I know that it's something you're really never ready for and that there are wonderful experiences to be had. Just getting like, massive cold feet now that we're at a point in life that it's no longer "wtf are they doing having kids right now?!" and more "hey why aren't they having kids right now".
 
Cyclones_R_GR8 said:
They're making a new Mummy movie starring Tom Cruise? It looks more like a digital crapfest action movie than horror.

Show Me the Mummy !!!

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Whar Rachel Weisz?

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wxman1 said:
LittleWx kicked my face while I was talking to him in the womb. Our relationship has yet to recover.
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My two boys were fighting before they ever even laid eyes on each other...
When I was hugely pregnant with my second, my first was still in diapers. I was sitting on the edge of the bed with him on the mat in front of me, with his feet on my belly while I was changing his diaper. Internal son kicked external son, and external son kicked back.
 
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People used to get pregnant in times where you lived in a cave. You can probably participate in gym classes haha.
 
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cyhiphopp said:
Once you have kids, there's no going back to that "just you and DH" mode. You basically sacrifice a huge chunk of your social life and free time for baby time. You get some back when they get old enough not to poop themselves all the time, but then you get into their extra curriculars and such.
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When I first read this, I read it like "You get some (time) back when you get old enough to poop yourself"

And I silently nodded in agreement.
 
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continuing my therapy session, I imagine this is a bit like when I started working out. I didn't want to give up my time sitting on the couch after work to do something like, a lot of push ups. But I started doing it and it's been one of the best choices I've ever made for myself (probably hence the post-baby body hangups) and I don't miss that wasted tv time at all. Worked it into my schedule and it's fine.

Or how I thought having to do more house/yard work at the house would eat up all our free time when we moved but it's been mostly rewarding and worth the benefits of stuff like a working heat system. I just hate unknown change, even when I know it's likely to be overall good.
 
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People used to get pregnant in times where you lived in a cave. You can probably participate in gym classes haha.
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hey but that was pre-corporate America! Their biggest problem was "will the saber-tooth tiger get this one too?"
 
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