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just so you know, I totally had a dream that we had a baby last night. I went back to work 5 days later though, which sucked. I do remember feeling like I loved that baby more than anything - and I'm sure a dream can't really convey the real feeling. The baby was also like, perfect, sleeping and never crying. And DH was a super helpful Dad. So yeah, if it all goes like that (minus the immediate working thing), it didn't seem so bad, hahaha!
Not sure if I should be embarrassed or you, but until "And DH was...", I read "we had a baby last night" as Cowgirl/00clone, and I was more weirded out than anything, trying to figure out how you'd even represent me in your dream....
...which also explains your foot issues. :wink:
(By the way, Cowgirl, I'm a physical therapist and have some experience helping people with foot injuries and blisters, so if there's anything I can do to help you or if you have any questions, feel free to PM me.)
So, in summation, cowgirl is pregnant with 00's baby. Is that the gist of it? Did I miss anything else?
And as an employer, in my business, of the roughly 15 woman I had that went out on LOA to have their first child, only one ever came back to work, despite most of them having the intention to. Don't know if that's common elsewhere or not, but just an interesting note.
And as an employer, in my business, of the roughly 15 woman I had that went out on LOA to have their first child, only one ever came back to work, despite most of them having the intention to. Don't know if that's common elsewhere or not, but just an interesting note.
And has the blister on her foot to prove it.
IT seems this is the trend more lately. Over how many years is that sample you're talking about?
7 years. About two per on average, though pregnancies tended to happen more in a group. Instead of consistently.
IMO, I would say the last seven years fits into the "recent trend" window. It's interesting that the landscape of the home is going back to the 1950's, with more stay-at-home moms. Not sure what kicked off this trend or why it's so, but it's definitely happening. Can any of the women here provide insight?
100 percent of my employees having their second or more came back to work. Something about mom not wanting to leave that baby's side on the first one. I used to joke that after the first one, they had the shine wear off and when having the second were just looking for a chance to get away by coming back to work.
I think it's that daycare is crazy expensive. I've priced stuff out here, and if we go with one of the good centers, I'd be left with about $8,000 a year in salary. I make a decent salary, so I can see if you are making less you'd be like let's save on gas and running around, and mom or dad will just stay home until they are in school.
Most of the women at my office have stayed after having their babies. Ironically, the two that have left was one after her 2nd (though she had an hour commute and got a part time work from home opportunity + husband had a farm - hard to move that to shorten the commute!) And the other left a couple years after her 4th. She had already been at about 3/4 time and they wanted more time from her. Her husband has a pretty demanding job (read: she was doing 100% of the dropping off, picking up, appointments, practices, etc.) so I could see that one coming.
I think a big thing is that the maternity leave policies are so bad in the States. If parents were given more paid time off, I think more moms (especially) would come back.
and our office totally goes through waves of pregnancy too. The first one happened right as I got married. Three of the four women who sat by me were pregnant, plus two others in the company. The other one is going on now. Five women in our section, including a set of twins coming any day.
I used to say it was contagious. If one person got pregnant, at least two others would end up pregnant before the first one went out on leave.
Sober Dandy doesn't want kids. He could go his whole life without them. Drunk Dandy wants kids. He understands that's the main reason humans are here: to reproduce. Not too many kids though. Two or three. One is not enough and anything more than three is just too much.
I knew from an early age I didn't want to have kids. My brothers are quite a bit older than me so I watched them have kids and go through the struggles. I was assigned babysitting duties and hated, HATED it - I could not imagine doing it full time. The only time I wonder if not having kids was a mistake is when I'm taking care of my parents. Who will take care of us? But then as I sit in doctor appointments and spent a few weeks in the hospital and rehab with my Dad this last winter, my brothers (well technically, one of my four brothers...) and I were an oddity there. Other patients with adult children did not have the support at their side like we were providing. So, I remind myself that just because you spawn, it doesn't mean they will be as dedicated as you in that arena.
Throughout the years there were more than a few moments where our families pressured us on the kid issue. I learned not to get upset - just reply back that I think the only reason people should have children is because they really want to be parents - not because others want to watch them be parents.
Good luck finding a señorita with the same life view as you! It's possible - they're out there.
Pressure to homeschool. Pressure if they go to certain churches to stay home. Sometimes it's just the "I can't leave cute/adorable baby" I would also say FB pressure. There are sooo many craft posts or "my kid did x today posts"
My wife and I were fine without having kids. Then she turned 29 and BOOM! she wanted kids. It was a complete 180 turn within days.
My job is not secure and she knows I'm looking for new work, she wants a new house and now a baby. I'm not sure we can do all of those things on her teacher's salary of 40k/year.
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