90% of the time, when I see a guy with a hot chick, I'm somewhat puzzled at the match. It seems that I've also seen a similar looking dude with a gal who was nowhere near as hot. So I just don't necessarily get what defines hotness to a woman.
I'll have a go at it:
Eyes. Women dig smokey eyes. Especially ones that are expressive. Eyes are directly related to personality and passion. It is difficult to conceal the depth of your personality and passion through your eyes.
Confidence. Power is the ultimate aphrodasiac, and confidence is the building block that power is made of.
Independence. Women really like a man who has freedom of maneuver. A guy who needs them more than they need him doesn't do it. Try ignoring the next few attractive females you meet. Just try to. In fact, if you do nothing else that I say, do this, and I guarantee you will immediately become more interesting to women than you currently are. Also, if you're 35 and still tied to mom or your parents' basement, you are a no go.
Perceived experience. Nothing starts the motor than the idea that the man knows things. Has been places, seen stuff. I think women like living vicariously much more than men. And to get this experience, men have to personally experience danger. And the perception that you've experienced danger starts all sorts of things going.
Solicitousness. Let me caveat this by saying that I am a faithfully and happily married man. I treat everyone I meet politely. But a shocking amount of times, when I perceive that I am just being courteous, the females I meet misinterpret this as me coming on to them. This indicates that men are, in general, doing a crappy job of treating women right.
Remember the thread awhile back about women paying their "fair share" on dates? While you guys are worrying about keeping score on money, those same women are fantasizing about having some dude's babies who just opened the door for her, and smiled at her, without demanding something in return.
Fitness. Here's another major man-woman disconnect. Men think that developing muscle will attract women. Women like lean men. The two don't hardly ever connect. Men think women like bodybuilder physiques. Women really like swimmers physiques. Women like swimmers' physiques a lot. But women don't like men so self-focused that they spend all time and energy on their body. And then some women like pudgy men. Lots of time, positive experiences in a woman's life are related to pudgy men. You can't undo that with a gym workout. Muscles are to men, as fashion is to women. Women's styles are to impress other women, and men's muscles are to impress other men.
Patience. I have to say that nearly every woman in the world has experienced (and regrets) a man in a hurry. Slow down. Learn to live in the moment. Remember that very little of the world is literal, or digital. Women almost always are more connected to the analog side of things.
Pay attention. Men can be the most oblivious creatures in the world. And women dig attention. It's what they're designed to do. I love to people watch, especially when it's attracted woman on oblivious man. On the other hand, I hear these stories about the guy who's female dumps him, and it's a big surprise to him. Gee. Every man, woman and child in the county knew she was going to dump him. And his lack of attention is probably reason#1.
gotta go, typed too much about this already. MrsPhaedrus is on IM!
