Random Thoughts 15: Crystal Clear 2021 Edition

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My middle sister has substance problems. She also has two children under 20 months. She has been in and out of rehab, good for a while, bad here and there for years now. The father has two children from a different mother and no family structure to support him. It's without saying a dysfunctional situation even though all three parents are in all 4 children's lives.

My sister relapsed on Easter Sunday. DHS was called on her, by both the father and my parents. My poor parents, in their retirement years are having to care for their grandchildren out of necessity. As they are getting older and their health is visually declining, it's really starting to hit me in the nuts the kind of responsibility that will fall to me in their passing or unfortunate health.

I have never wanted children of my own and am single in my mid 30s. I'm certainly not ready for it, and wouldn't have to take them on immediately but it's really starting to bring my own place in mortality closer to view.

I'm not sure my sister will ever 'grow out' of her selfish mindset. People always say, 'well she's an addict, she's ill,' and it just makes me angrier every time I hear it.

Sometimes life thrusts us into situations that we aren't ready for. I've decided as I got older that this is life's way of testing our limits.....and also maybe opening us up to new things. And even though on the surface these things seem fraught with trouble, they have a way of making us realize what we are capable of, and what in fact is most important.

I had a long-standing feud with my older brother. A year and a half ago, he launched into a tirade (with several other people present, not family) against me that included phrases like "F**k you!" "I don't give a $hit about your feelings!" "You can take your 'sorrys' and stick them up your a$$!" And this from a person who rarely uses profanity.

It hurt.....a lot. But over time, I came to realize that I had hurt him, too - and so I went to him, and apologized, and we have managed to bury that hatchet forever. It's been a revelation.

I can certainly understand your frustration with your sister, and how her selfishness and addiction have intruded into your life. But maybe you will find within yourself things you didn't know about, things that will bring you unexpected joy. I'm praying for the best resolution for all of you.
 
For all that humanity has figured out its amazing to think about how much we still don't know
It’s why science doesn’t even really claim it is set facts. The scientific theorem basically creates theories that they can’t disprove more than necessarily prove.
 
It’s why science doesn’t even really claim it is set facts. The scientific theorem basically creates theories that they can’t disprove more than necessarily prove.
I like the lantern analogy. What we know is like a lit lantern on a picnic table in a dark night. What we know is what is brightly illuminated by the lantern. What we think we know is the dimly lit circle of light and shadows at the fringes. The bigger lantern we get the larger the illuminated circle is but there is always a fringe of half light at the perimeter and there is always an ever larger circle of darkness surrounding us.
 
For all that humanity has figured out its amazing to think about how much we still don't know
It's fun bumping up against that.
This morning I was discussing the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle with class and it's my favorite part of the semester as students struggle to understand the applications of the concept and what it does and does not tell us. Good growth moment.
 
Loved the last few mornings of waking up with the windows open and hearing the birds or waking up at 2AM to an owl hooting away.
 
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Loved the last few mornings of waking up with the windows open and hearing the birds or waking up at 2AM to an owl hooting away.
We now have at least two white squirrels in the neighborhood. We spied them at the neighbors' across the street yesterday on our walk. This morning I was at the kitchen sink and I pointed out one of them in our backyard by a maple. I looked down at the sink only to hear everyone in the kitchen gasp. Apparently an owl or hawk came swooping across the yard and just missed taking the albino tree rat right off the maple's tree trunk.

This guy missed all of it.
 
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