Do you visit graves/cemeteries?

[KnappShack]

I don't want anyone to feel guilty about not visiting, but I do want a grave site. It's one of the very few ways you can preserve green space for almost forever in the United States. There are exceptions, but it's rare to disturb a known grave site.

And laws may change. Religions and feelings may change, but as of today, a grave is basically green space forever.

 

[BoxsterCy]

Just remembered that peeing on the grave of Hayden Fry is on my bucket list so maybe I will visit a cemetery someday.

 

[Cyclonsin]

Parents are alive and grandparents were cremated. Nowhere to visit that holds anyone I knew well.

That said, historic cemeteries/graveyards are amongst my favorite things to visit on vacation. Bonaventure Cemetery in Savannah is also one of the most beautiful spots in the city.

 

[Turn2]

Yes, because country cemeteries make great locations for bluebird next boxes and at night great settings for astrophotography.

 

[cyclones500]

Whenever I go to visit Mom and family in Iowa, she and I swing over to our (now former) hometown cemetery. Buried there are both sets of grandparents, my dad and my brother (who did in youth, before I was born). When I was younger, I didn't go there too frequently, but as I get older it's a routine and part of a tradition when Mom and I get together.

 

[StClone]

Just this grave.
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Who would a thunk a green casket.

 

[CyDegen]

Yes! I love going to cemeteries. Especially ones that are off the beaten path. I try to stop by at least one on every road trip I go on. There are some very beautiful cemeteries that barely anyone ever go to.

 

[Max57]

Yes, two graves. Both people I loved who died way too early. I know it's dumb, but I say a few words to update them on current events in my life. It sort of makes me feel better - sometimes. Grief is a strange thing.

I don't usually make a special trip, but when I'm in the nearby area, I stop and make sure the area looks good. I might throw down some grass seed, pull some weeds, clean the markers.

 

[sdclone]

Whenever I go back and visit my family in South Dakota, I always make sure I go to the cemetery to see my dad, sister and one of my high school friends. I always make sure my dad and sister's site is all taken care of and looks nice.

 

[Jer]

I'm mixed, but don't. I find I reminisce way too much and am too sentimental the way it is, if I went to the places where I'd have to confront some of those feelings even closer just seems like something I need personally to avoid. I absolutely understand why people do and don't, and neither is right or wrong.

It's like cremation vs burial.

I don't want my family to spend 10K to get a fancy box that nobody will ever see again with extra comfy cushioning that I'll never know existed. Buy a better couch instead so those alive have the good cushioning. And I don't want them to think they need to come visit me. But, I'm also afraid of the possible reality that everything you are stops existing in any form when you die and you have no connection ever again with those you loved.

But I'm also mixed on the cremation route. The thought of the act brings up different emotions and I don't want to put the emotional burden on anybody to decide what to do with my ashes. It's one thing if it's your wife or kids, but eventually there's really nobody left to leave it to, so everybody feels awkward on what to do with it. My kids aren't going to care about my grandma's ashes, but they'll have the burden of never knowing what to do with them once I'm gone.

 

[dmclone]

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No, but I should.

 

[Sparkplug]

I go each fall to tell dad what the yields were

 

[CRcyclone6]

Pro-tip: the number of steps does not change when it changes from day to night.
Edit: or of you go up forward vs backward, whatever the legend is.

One grave stone that lays flat of the witch that supposedly haunts the cemetery reads,

Remember friends as you pass by
What you are now so once was I
What I am now so you must be
Prepare in life to follow me.

 

[Bret44]

I try to take the time when I am able to and talk with my grandpas and a cousin.

I like to sit and chat with them and have a beer.

 

[intrepid27]

Parents are alive and grandparents were cremated. Nowhere to visit that holds anyone I knew well.

That said, historic cemeteries/graveyards are amongst my favorite things to visit on vacation. Bonaventure Cemetery in Savannah is also one of the most beautiful spots in the city.

Agreed that cemetery is first of all on a fantastic piece of real estate and secondly is very cool. The older colonial cemetery in the Historical District of Savannah is cool as well. Atlanta has a very cool cemetery as is services the entire metro area. There's' cool old one in Memphis as well.

 

[Pope]

My wife and I didn't want to burden our kids so we went ahead and purchased our cemetery plots. Wanna feel something weird? Try visiting your own grave before you're in it.

 

[Cyclonsin]

My wife and I didn't want to burden our kids so we went ahead and purchased our cemetery plots. Wanna feel something weird? Try visiting your own grave before you're in it.

I'm surprised you have to pay for a spot in the papal crypts.

Don't worry, I won't tell anyone that you got hitched. Just put in a good word for me with the big guy, would ya?

 

[Pope]

I'm surprised you have to pay for a spot in the papal crypts.

Don't worry, I won't tell anyone that you got hitched. Just put in a good word for me with the big guy, would ya?

How do you think the Vatican got to be so rich in the first place? They charge me for everything! And yeah, keep the wife thing on the down low. Thanks.

 

[stateofmind]

For those of you that go and talk to the deceased, I assume you don't think that's where their spirit is right? I mean if that was the thing, would they be more likely to be where they lived, died, or are buried? To me if you believe you can talk to spirits, then you could do that absolutely anywhere. So to me a grave is about other things, and it doesn't matter what my opinion is there.

I would consider myself a Christian, so I believe in spirits for sure. But I don't pretend to know anything about the afterlife. I talk to my Mom anytime I see the clock read 10:10, 11:11, 12:12, etc. But that's for me, and my memory of her. Mostly it's just a simple, I love and miss you!

Interesting thread topic.

 

[Bret44]

For those of you that go and talk to the deceased, I assume you don't think that's where their spirit is right? I mean if that was the thing, would they be more likely to be where they lived, died, or are buried? To me if you believe you can talk to spirits, then you could do that absolutely anywhere. So to me a grave is about other things, and it doesn't matter what my opinion is there.

I would consider myself a Christian, so I believe in spirits for sure. But I don't pretend to know anything about the afterlife. I talk to my Mom anytime I see the clock read 10:10, 11:11, 12:12, etc. But that's for me, and my memory of her. Mostly it's just a simple, I love and miss you!

Interesting thread topic.

I know their spirit, their soul, whatever you want to call it (if there is such a thing), isn't there. But that is the last place I said goodbye to the body. And they are buried in quiet country cemeteries, so there is something peaceful about that.