Bingo, its usually I had a terrible day and a massive headache leave me alone and make dinner.
Monday Night with a Teacher
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Bingo, its usually I had a terrible day and a massive headache leave me alone and make dinner.
Rural America really is a ********. T’s, P’s, and Delta.
What you are describing crosses all lines, rural and metro. I know this because my wife's mother taught for over 30 years in Des Moines, and has parroted what you just said about small town schools. She has said the worse all started with the rise in single parent households. She has a master's in ed, shakes her head and says many of these kids leave not being able to spell masters let alone know it's purpose. Maybe a bit of a stretch because of her frustration.......but not much. The only difference is these metro kids don't want to work either.
I was in a single parent household (parents divorced--both involved) and like to think I turned out fine.
Plenty of classmates and friends and family were in the same boat and did the same.
Plenty of them that had both parents in the household had a harder time and still do from years of forced happiness.
Many of the nicest kids I've worked with were in split families or actual single parent situations, the opposite for those in the 'ideal' situation.
What's perceived from the outside in either case isn't reality for anyone.
Plenty of classmates and friends and family were in the same boat and did the same.
Plenty of them that had both parents in the household had a harder time and still do from years of forced happiness.
Many of the nicest kids I've worked with were in split families or actual single parent situations, the opposite for those in the 'ideal' situation.
What's perceived from the outside in either case isn't reality for anyone.
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Both involved. The kids my MIL is speaking of didn't even have that. Never married, multiple children from different fathers who are never involved. This is what she says is the key to the breakdown. I'm not a teacher, she has the master's. I will defer to her on this.
“Sounds like somebody’s got a case of the Monday’s”. Lol just kidding thank you teachers you put up with to much **** cause of bad parenting and are underpaid to boot IMO.
Being involved is the key, we have too many parents today working jobs they hate, lots of yours, mine and ours families out there, and they either just cannot find the time or really do not care to parent their children.
On my way to work this morning, I drove by a house at work, I see the granddad out picking up a bike in the front yard, the bike was left there overnight by his grandson, a student that I have in the 7th grade.
The kid could not even bother putting it in the garage for God sake, and today in class he wanted to sleep throughout the period.
Grand dad doesn't have the ability to discipline the kid, dad is out of the picture, mom just lets him run the streets. The kid is a smart kid, running with the wrong crowd and before you know it, will be breaking the law.
The circle just is never broken.
I am 42 and definitely was raised by "boomers" but we are not raising spoiled brats in our house and I love it that we got an email from our oldest kid's teacher who is in 2nd grade. Her teacher had nothing but great things to share with us how our daughter is a leader in the class and respects everyone and does what is asked of her the 1st time. Made us feel really proud as parents that we are raising our kids to respect their teacher.
We even had to navigate the mask topic as we gave her the decision to wear one to start the school year after having a lengthy discussion about Covid. She choose not to wear a mask to start the school year then when our 4 year old got Covid from daycare we made her wear a mask to school. She didn't complain and She has been so diligent about wearing it that even when they take pictures or are outside she still has her mask on even though we told her it was OK to pull it down for pictures.
Just spend time with your kids and form a relationship with them. I have found the more time I spend with them and interest I show they will respect me when I have to enforce discipline.
We even had to navigate the mask topic as we gave her the decision to wear one to start the school year after having a lengthy discussion about Covid. She choose not to wear a mask to start the school year then when our 4 year old got Covid from daycare we made her wear a mask to school. She didn't complain and She has been so diligent about wearing it that even when they take pictures or are outside she still has her mask on even though we told her it was OK to pull it down for pictures.
Just spend time with your kids and form a relationship with them. I have found the more time I spend with them and interest I show they will respect me when I have to enforce discipline.
Bolded was my reason to stay in line (Wasn't much of a hell raiser anyway). Went to a small enough school that whatever happened was back to your parents before you were. Parents who are willing to admit their kids aren't perfect and will help discipline/ help their children grow would solve 95% of these problems. If there was a difference between me and a school teacher/ administrator my folks would back them, unless it could be proven I was 100% right.
Yep, nothing like a "pier" group decision making committee
. We had a gal at my last job who loved being the secretary for committees (kept her off the line) couldn't spell a lick and the spell check committee notes were always "interesting"Yep and like my response said, folks who's parents weren't involved also thrived.
I have a master's too so I guess I'm qualified to defer to my own experiences and observations.
We moved from MN to IA last year. A couple weeks ago, the mom of one of my daughters MN classmates messaged my wife on FB:
“What’s your daughters FB account? Lauren wants to friend her so they can chat on messenger.”
These girls are 6.
(No, my daughter doesn’t have FB, or a smartphone. Nor will she for many, many years.)
“What’s your daughters FB account? Lauren wants to friend her so they can chat on messenger.”
These girls are 6.
(No, my daughter doesn’t have FB, or a smartphone. Nor will she for many, many years.)
Plenary of problems with kids and parents today but let’s not pretend that past generations were any better. Lol
People and kids have always sucked in some capacity. Problem is the world has changed so much in the last 30 years most older people are completely unqualified or disinterested in handling today's childhood problems. We're all too busy.
I really hope you responded with "WHOA Dream Big" and then laughed at the loser.
Yeah, I remember when my cousin’s son was little (probably in kindergarten or first grade) he had a problem where he would hug his classmates during class. And the teachers were working with him because it was a distraction and he shouldn’t be hugging people without their consent. My aunt was telling my grandpa about it and he laughed and said when he was about that age he and his friends tied a classmate to a tree during recess ... but he was pretty sure they untied him before they went back inside.
