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NWICY said:
Sure hope they get to go KC, I know I sure enjoy the time I get to spend with my nieces and nephews. Not quite that kind of trip though LOL.
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One granddaughter was here last night - that's when we made the offer. Then we got to thinking she might want a companion (she has no SO) and she gets along really well with her cousin. So we asked if she would like us to invite the cousin as well, and she was all over it. We called the younger gd today, and made the offer. And got zero response. Bless her heart, she couldn't even talk enough to say yes. :D I told her about when I got that letter from my father back in '98, how I was reading it in the back yard, and just kinda sat right where I was and started shaking & bawling. Couldn't WAIT for Lew to get home so I could tell him. She kind of giggled, and just squeaked out a "thanks" that was almost a question. I sent her the links, and five minutes later she was peppering me on messenger with about a half million questions. I think she's stoked! :D

We were blessed with four cruises together with my father, my sisters, his wife, and her sons...and all the spouses (no kids). We've been talking for a while about passing it on, and the time seemed right.
 
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Cyclones_R_GR8 said:
I've heard about putting chocolate in chili but not for that reason. I've also heard that using coffee as your liquid as opposed to water or broth is supposed to give it a good flavor.
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Cinnamon is also a secret ingredient to add a touch of sweetness and overall increase flavor.
 
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ImJustKCClone said:
Not too worried about the girls - they are well able to take care of themselves now. I defended them pretty heavily when I first started posting in here, though. It was kind of like open season on people's daughters & granddaughters, mostly from the single guys. That has mostly faded away I think it may be because some of you have teenaged daughters now and you tend to discourage that kind of behavior (although you guys still get pretty mouthy even now about models & actresses).
The "you" in this post is a generic "you", not a BC-specific "you".
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I hope not, because he’s a real gentleman.
 
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ImJustKCClone said:
One granddaughter was here last night - that's when we made the offer. Then we got to thinking she might want a companion (she has no SO) and she gets along really well with her cousin. So we asked if she would like us to invite the cousin as well, and she was all over it. We called the younger gd today, and made the offer. And got zero response. Bless her heart, she couldn't even talk enough to say yes. :D I told her about when I got that letter from my father back in '98, how I was reading it in the back yard, and just kinda sat right where I was and started shaking & bawling. Couldn't WAIT for Lew to get home so I could tell him. She kind of giggled, and just squeaked out a "thanks" that was almost a question. I sent her the links, and five minutes later she was peppering me on messenger with about a half million questions. I think she's stoked! :D

We were blessed with four cruises together with my father, my sisters, his wife, and her sons...and all the spouses (no kids). We've been talking for a while about passing it on, and the time seemed right.
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Nothing beats family. Well done, KC. :)
 
ImJustKCClone said:
One granddaughter was here last night - that's when we made the offer. Then we got to thinking she might want a companion (she has no SO) and she gets along really well with her cousin. So we asked if she would like us to invite the cousin as well, and she was all over it. We called the younger gd today, and made the offer. And got zero response. Bless her heart, she couldn't even talk enough to say yes. :D I told her about when I got that letter from my father back in '98, how I was reading it in the back yard, and just kinda sat right where I was and started shaking & bawling. Couldn't WAIT for Lew to get home so I could tell him. She kind of giggled, and just squeaked out a "thanks" that was almost a question. I sent her the links, and five minutes later she was peppering me on messenger with about a half million questions. I think she's stoked! :D

We were blessed with four cruises together with my father, my sisters, his wife, and her sons...and all the spouses (no kids). We've been talking for a while about passing it on, and the time seemed right.
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We did kind of the reverse of this a couple of years ago. We invited Mrs. Velo's folks to vacation with us in the Black Hills. It is something the kids will never forget getting to share with their grandparents.
 
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So, about 25 years ago (spring of 94) while still a single mom, I took a part-time job doing data entry for Asgrow seed company to make a little extra cash. Unbeknownst to me, Asgrow contributed to a retirement fund out of my paycheck. They recently notified me (via my previous married name) that I had a pension fund, and how would I like it to be disbursed upon my reaching age 65. I contacted them and they would not talk to me until I provided them of proof of my name change via our marriage certificate (which disappeared into a massive filing "system" many many moons ago). So, we went through the hoops of getting a replacement copy of the certificate, sent a copy of it off and got my name changed in their records to reflect what my name actually is now, and they sent me all the paperwork to fill out. I am entitled to $3.84 monthly for life. Or, I can choose 2/3 of that monthly, and Lew would receive 2/3 monthly after my death. OR, I can choose the lump sum of about $500 less 20% taxes.

Here's the kicker (and remember the key words - I WAS SINGLE when I worked for them):
I have to get Lew's permission (NOTARIZED) to make the lump sum selection.

I gotta tell you, that really chaps me!
 
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So, about 25 years ago (spring of 94) while still a single mom, I took a part-time job doing data entry for Asgrow seed company to make a little extra cash. Unbeknownst to me, Asgrow contributed to a retirement fund out of my paycheck. They recently notified me (via my previous married name) that I had a pension fund, and how would I like it to be disbursed upon my reaching age 65. I contacted them and they would not talk to me until I provided them of proof of my name change via our marriage certificate (which disappeared into a massive filing "system" many many moons ago). So, we went through the hoops of getting a replacement copy of the certificate, sent a copy of it off and got my name changed in their records to reflect what my name actually is now, and they sent me all the paperwork to fill out. I am entitled to $3.84 monthly for life. Or, I can choose 2/3 of that monthly, and Lew would receive 2/3 monthly after my death. OR, I can choose the lump sum of about $500 less 20% taxes.

Here's the kicker (and remember the key words - I WAS SINGLE when I worked for them):
I have to get Lew's permission (NOTARIZED) to make the lump sum selection.

I gotta tell you, that really chaps me!
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I get it, you were single. But when we get married all of my assets become our assets. Just like I have to get Mrs. Velo to specifically sign off on changing the beneficiary of any of my death benefits through my employer to anyone else but her - even my children. I can understand it.
 
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So, about 25 years ago (spring of 94) while still a single mom, I took a part-time job doing data entry for Asgrow seed company to make a little extra cash. Unbeknownst to me, Asgrow contributed to a retirement fund out of my paycheck. They recently notified me (via my previous married name) that I had a pension fund, and how would I like it to be disbursed upon my reaching age 65. I contacted them and they would not talk to me until I provided them of proof of my name change via our marriage certificate (which disappeared into a massive filing "system" many many moons ago). So, we went through the hoops of getting a replacement copy of the certificate, sent a copy of it off and got my name changed in their records to reflect what my name actually is now, and they sent me all the paperwork to fill out. I am entitled to $3.84 monthly for life. Or, I can choose 2/3 of that monthly, and Lew would receive 2/3 monthly after my death. OR, I can choose the lump sum of about $500 less 20% taxes.

Here's the kicker (and remember the key words - I WAS SINGLE when I worked for them):
I have to get Lew's permission (NOTARIZED) to make the lump sum selection.

I gotta tell you, that really chaps me!
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Take the 3.84 for life. LOL. Almost 11 yrs before you come out ahead but each month you get enough to go out for a coffee.
 
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VeloClone said:
I get it, you were single. But when we get married all of my assets become our assets. Just like I have to get Mrs. Velo to specifically sign off on changing the beneficiary of any of my death benefits through my employer to anyone else but her - even my children. I can understand it.
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I haven't had notarized permission required on anything else we had or have done together. For the record, all of our finances are joint, and there was no pre-nup or anything. When I marry, I assume it's forever. Okay, one time it wasn't...

It takes me back to the days (in MY adult life) when women couldn't have a credit card in their name and other fun stuff like that. Here's a link to an informative read...it starts out with a cave-type preface, but some of you younger folks might be surprised by some of the things on the list.

https://www.bustle.com/p/13-simple-things-women-couldnt-do-50-years-ago-in-the-us-66601
 
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I get it, you were single. But when we get married all of my assets become our assets. Just like I have to get Mrs. Velo to specifically sign off on changing the beneficiary of any of my death benefits through my employer to anyone else but her - even my children. I can understand it.
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Not necessarily that they become joint in the eyes of the law. A few things can remain separate.
 
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I haven't had notarized permission required on anything else we had or have done together. For the record, all of our finances are joint, and there was no pre-nup or anything. When I marry, I assume it's forever. Okay, one time it wasn't...

It takes me back to the days (in MY adult life) when women couldn't have a credit card in their name and other fun stuff like that. Here's a link to an informative read...it starts out with a cave-type preface, but some of you younger folks might be surprised by some of the things on the list.

https://www.bustle.com/p/13-simple-things-women-couldnt-do-50-years-ago-in-the-us-66601
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For my wife, number two would have been good.
 
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I'm no lawyer, but aren't they joint unless by mutual agreement you arrange in advance for them to be separate?
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From things I have gathered from friends who got divorced. If you happen to get inheritance before or during the marriage and you keep that object, cash, whatever by itself and not list it in both names it stays individual property. There are a few other things but dealing in the farm world where divorces quite often cripple a farming operation, this is generally the most well known one.
 
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