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We have invited neighbors of grandparents to events but these neighbors have been like (great) aunts and uncles to the kids. If the kids don't know them there really shouldn't be an obligation to invite them in my opinion.
The vixen's family gets together at every opportunity.....birthdays, holidays, days in general. And everyone comes. So I have to make sure I have plenty of Bud Light and Busch Light in the basement refrigerator, because they sure loves them some brewskis. I've gotten used to it, I just make sure there's enough whiskey or gin for me. I can be mellow, too, ya know.
I agree with this. If the grandparents want to bring them along, great.
You have to look at the other side of this too. Sometimes people get invites for events for people they have never even met and they start to think they just got an invite so the guest of honor gets another gift.
I feel for you. Do your best to be strong and firm early on because if you give in early, they will expect it all the time.
For my first few kids I had the added challenge of a "demanding" wife. She always found something wrong with what my family did, even though her mom is still a hot mess.
New wifey is such a sweetie pie, but even she was smart enough to say, "The baby and I are tired. You guys can stick around and talk, but we're going to sleep now."
I actually thought about you when they did that joke!
yeah, it didn't help that I likely already had a reputation as being "anti-family" due to my non-closeness with some unpleasant relatives on my side and prior push back on attending every single family event. I'm sure that's probably come through on here, ha. No matter that DH was in complete agreement and/or he was the one saying no. The thought seems to be that I control what DH does in those cases.........which is not the case at all. Like hopp and jc alluded to, holidays will be fun because we would like to establish some of our own traditions/time together and that likely means that we won't be able to attend every single Christmas event. Each side will probably get one each pending how the schedules fall. Which is way better than alternating years, imo. But will seem a dramatic cut if we are currently expected to be at three for one side alone.
Already mentally prepping for the "but baby is too young to remember (whatever DH and I want to do, like spend one day at home), everyone else will want to see baby", etc., etc.
Yeah, we went to my wife's aunts "graduation party" a few years ago. She went back to school and got a degree for social work. Her parents invited their whole neighborhood and it turned into basically a social function for my wife's grandma and grandpa. Keli was fine with it I guess, because her friends and family were there too. But it seemed a little odd to me.
You can name her Elizabeth so she has the "CEO name" but call her Bessy.
Just remember, your baby, your rules. It might be a good idea to just do one holiday each with each family. Maybe rotate which holiday is with which so both sides get some X-mas time in as well.
I still have the stack of grad party invites from this year—71. Most of them handed out to the boys at school. We went to maybe 40? Harder when you have your own.
I don’t feel bad for the kids with lots of people there. Usually the adults are there because of the parents or grandparents.
I do feel bad for the kids that when you show up, you are most of the crowd. You feel like you should stay so it isn’t just the kid and his parents but you have more places to hit, cake to eat. One of these, son texted some friends to hit up the party and the honoree looked pretty relieved when a carload of guys showed up. When place was rocking, easier to slip out.
I don’t feel bad for the kids with lots of people there. Usually the adults are there because of the parents or grandparents.
I do feel bad for the kids that when you show up, you are most of the crowd. You feel like you should stay so it isn’t just the kid and his parents but you have more places to hit, cake to eat. One of these, son texted some friends to hit up the party and the honoree looked pretty relieved when a carload of guys showed up. When place was rocking, easier to slip out.
You went to 40 graduation parties? Holy cake coma bat man.
Half of those kids are probably in my basement right now.
I had one nesting in my combustion air vent a couple of years ago. I put a mesh cover over it after that. The nice thing about that one is that it doesn't have lint flowing through it.
both sides live very close to each other so the swapping years would never go over very well and honestly, as long as they pick similar days, it isn't too bad to get in time with both. But requiring multiple trips to attend all events will likely come to an end.
Oooh, tough one. Taking a small child to a night game might not be my first choice, especially a rivals game. Sunny afternoons are more family time friendly and less drunken ******* friendly. Downside of pro sports today although MLB is not as bad as NFL by any means.
Doing a push up workout while reading RT. Figure Ineed to keep in shape to keepin the running for push up queen. CG is currently out of the running, figure I have to keep up with Carvers. And Emily.
Guessing your title is safe. I do 25 after my yoga in the morning. When the kids that are in my basement get their fish grilled, some are going over to work on pool repairs. Can’t wait until they fill it. My lifeguard kids let me in before open and I can swim laps on the length of pool with ropes down. Way easier on old lady joints for cardio.
Wow, busy morning on CF. I slept like a rock (well, a drooling rock...jeez, i never drool, WTF) until well after 900 so way behind. Guess that's what happens when I don't drink any wine for a few days? Or exercising elderly guy needs rest or something.
Family Visits: Nobody visits Boxster world. Bet in ten years with CWW#2 we had zero from her family and very few from mine. No kids, no visits. Child nieces liked the basenjis back in the day but that was about it. Now that it's just me nobody but the one niece stops on road trips back and forth to Montana (her in-laws state). She's likely the only one that could find my house without Google mapping.
This sorta suits me just fine.
Graduation Parties: Started a thread on that. Based on answers there was thinking of making a token appearance next door. Based on CF I am thinking of tying some bills around a rock and throwing it over the fence. Also got an invite to a wedding this fall up north in Minn. Parents are both good friends from ISU. Won't even recognize the son getting married, cannot even remember last time I saw him. I kinda feel like I am actually supposed to attend and other similar friends are going and say I am supposed to. Probably will but will likely feel a little out of place with the other couple pushing me to go.
Family Visits: Nobody visits Boxster world. Bet in ten years with CWW#2 we had zero from her family and very few from mine. No kids, no visits. Child nieces liked the basenjis back in the day but that was about it. Now that it's just me nobody but the one niece stops on road trips back and forth to Montana (her in-laws state). She's likely the only one that could find my house without Google mapping.
This sorta suits me just fine.Graduation Parties: Started a thread on that. Based on answers there was thinking of making a token appearance next door. Based on CF I am thinking of tying some bills around a rock and throwing it over the fence. Also got an invite to a wedding this fall up north in Minn. Parents are both good friends from ISU. Won't even recognize the son getting married, cannot even remember last time I saw him. I kinda feel like I am actually supposed to attend and other similar friends are going and say I am supposed to. Probably will but will likely feel a little out of place with the other couple pushing me to go.
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