I'd go with the idea that it's less threatening for sure.
Anytime someone tells me "we need to talk" I want to duck & cover.
Anytime someone tells me "we need to talk" I want to duck & cover.
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right? I can't remember a time where DH and I have done the "we need to talk" thing either. DH would clam up and probably not say much.
Right now my only white pants are a loose linen capri, those are from Gap Outlet (about the only store in town). Otherwise I mostly order from Gap and Old Navy (free returns since the closest are in DSM). Not quite skinny pants, but I like their Pixie pants. They will probably have white closer to spring, right now they have a color called Polar Bear which looks off white/grey white.
Find something....If you're not growing closer together, you're growing farther apart. Throw a newborn and the stresses in there, **** gets real. But, with that, 6 years as DINKs will mean the paths are pretty well established...with constantly changing young children, no matter how well established you think the path is, a tree will fall across it, and the old Marines matra of "improvise, adapt, overcome" will be needed. Keeping the troops (mom and dad) on the same page and working together takes talking.
Mrs. is a more quiet person and thinking on the spot locks her up too, over the last few months, by talking, I've learned (from her) that if I give her a topic ahead of time, she can think about it and put some thoughts together. That's what happened this morning, it was a topic of conversation I gave her a few weeks ago. (my weakness...I gave her the topic, then expected her to initiate conversation when she had thought about it...she's not there yet, but realizes she needs to work on it, but I also can't get stubborn in demanding she initiate, either).
Co-workers have joked about the fact that I e-mail my wife, but with our different schedules, E-mail has become the medium we use when we need to ensure we communicate something, but timing is not critical, it just needs to be shared. I e-mailed her that topic of conversation...so...sometime I'd like to talk about this, think about it. Other times, things are more important, I've texted her...tomorrow morning we need to talk about X so we can get Y done, think about it.
that is DH to a T. He's someone who thinks about what he says before he says it and having someone sitting there staring and waiting for the next sentence is no bueno. I'll do that too sometimes, texting saying that we should talk about x later tonight so we can decide on y. Doing that a lot with house stuff lately.
Hah...that's actually the concept I was thinking of..."like, if we were in cowgirl's boat, we'd be texting topics"
So I wonder if someone got fired because that stair tower to the right of the video image shifted but didn't come down. A stair tower that tall is probably going to be a bear to safely bring down now. They won't want anyone to go near it since it is probably unstable and who knows when it might come down on its own.
oh yeah. "DH, we need to submit our door selection tonight" or "we are going to look at and pick x number of things this weekend".
I went to go try on the suit for my sister's upcoming wedding. There was a certain kind of lady handling my alterations. I felt like Van Wilder.
If you've ever seen that movie, you know what I'm talking about.
If you've ever seen that movie, you know what I'm talking about.
Sorry to re-hash. Just catching up. Busy day.
I'm the "think things through before I talk" kind as well. That was the subject of many disputes early in my relationship with Mrs Cooler. She'd ask a question, and if I wasn't responding within a second, she'd start up with the whole "are you ignoring me" or "don't you care about what I just said".
Once that started, I'd get ****** at the accusations and just clam up. I detest arguing something that doesn't need to be argued. Meanwhile, my wife would take my silence as further disrepect and launch into a bigger argument.
I think our upbringings were just so wildly different that it took us both time to adjust to each other. My parents were extremely soft spoken and hers were very confrontational about everything.
Just had a federal investigator come to our door. Apparently our neighbors two doors down have a son and he is trying to get a job that requires a security clearance and they are trying to find info out info on him.
Nothing like answering the door and having them say "I am a federal investigator" as they shown you a badge to get your heart pumping.
Nothing like answering the door and having them say "I am a federal investigator" as they shown you a badge to get your heart pumping.
I get letters from them fairly frequently. A lot of our lab rats apply for fed jobs.
I had been avoiding some of the rant threads but made the mistake of opening the "toughness" one today. It didn't take me long to see the idiocy when one of the first posters had a long rant about many things but part of it was Fred's failure to use timeouts properly. He pointed out that in the OU loss in the first half Naz jacked a bad three and OU went down and scored off the rebound and by the time Fred called a time out ISU's lead had been cut to 5 and OU had the momentum. I resisted the temptation to tell him that ISU's largest lead for that entire game was 10 so at worst we are talking about a 5-0 run here. I didn't because I know it would do no good.
How do some of these people survive in the real world?
How do some of these people survive in the real world?
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