Getting married this saturday

[CYNWIA]

Separate banking accounts. From past experience and from friends. It seems most "discussions" happen around finances. If each has there own spending money, after the other bills are paid, then if she buys a dress or you buy a new golf club it isn't a debate.

god I wish I would have taken this advice a while ago. We combined accounts about 3 months ago. Imagine my bank account as a bucket. It used to be a strong bucket, very reliable and sound... now it has a gaping hole in it, and water is leaking from it fast than it came in

we have had some talks, but as she is still in school, she doesnt really have the best grasp on what it means to have "limited resources" yet

 

[stevefrench]

god I wish I would have taken this advice a while ago. We combined accounts about 3 months ago. Imagine my bank account as a bucket. It used to be a strong bucket, very reliable and sound... now it has a gaping hole in it, and water is leaking from it fast than it came in

we have had some talks, but as she is still in school, she doesnt really have the best grasp on what it means to have "limited resources" yet

obvious next step, control her with violence.

 

[iahawkhunter]

god I wish I would have taken this advice a while ago. We combined accounts about 3 months ago. Imagine my bank account as a bucket. It used to be a strong bucket, very reliable and sound... now it has a gaping hole in it, and water is leaking from it fast than it came in

we have had some talks, but as she is still in school, she doesnt really have the best grasp on what it means to have "limited resources" yet

An alternative to separate accounts is to budget how much each of you can spend each month without having to consult the other (i.e., an allowance). I agree that a lot of potential trouble can come from financial discussions, but my wife's and my approach is to have a combined account so that it's all "in the open". A middle ground could be separate "petty cash"-type accounts that get a monthly allowance from your shared account.

 

[The_Architect]

Any last minute pieces of advice from all you fanatics who are married?

1. Congrats

2. At your wedding reception, don't feel obligated to walk around and talk to every
single person. Spend time with your wife. Your guests will not take it personally if you don't go out of your way to talk to them.

3. Get as many BJ's as possible between now and your "I do's" because those are over with once you're married. As a matter of fact I'm pretty sure there's a hidden section in your marriage certificate that you sign that says your wife never has to do that again.

 

[CYNWIA]

I have tried to emotionally terrorize her for the 2 1/2 years we've been together... looks like she might have to start "accidentally falling" into door knobs.

 

[CYNWIA]

1. Congrats

2. At your wedding reception, don't feel obligated to walk around and talk to every
single person. Spend time with your wife. Your guests will not take it personally if you don't go out of your way to talk to them.

3. Get as many BJ's as possible between now and your "I do's" because those are over with once you're married. As a matter of fact I'm pretty sure there's a hidden section in your marriage certificate that you sign that says your wife never has to do that again.

haha, Unfortunately for me she has never been all about the BJ's... I may have had 1 or 2 the entire time we've been together... so I guess I am ready for 0 per year because that is not much of a drop from 1 per year

 

[stevefrench]

haha, Unfortunately for me she has never been all about the BJ's... I may have had 1 or 2 the entire time we've been together... so I guess I am ready for 0 per year because that is not much of a drop from 1 per year

Blow jibbers are overrated anyway. it's all about the rimmers

 

[Wesley]

Take some videotapes to remind you.

 

[JP4CY]

The architect mentioned at the reception talking to people. Make sure that you relax with your wife, its your day. Don't try and have a 10 minute conversation with everyone personally.

Keep your legs, feet somewhat active when you are at the alter. Don't lock in your knees!

Also, make sure to drink plenty of water. I was roasting on my wedding day and didn't drink enough water. My ring was so loose when I put it on, I thought I was going to lose it. I caught back up and drank a ton of water in the next few days, then it began to fit normally.

 

[stevefrench]

Take some videotapes once you get back to the hotel suite that night. if nothing else you can threaten to post them on the internet if she doest do what you want. continuing the emotional terrorizing is key here...

FIFY

 

[Wesley]

An alternative to separate accounts is to budget how much each of you can spend each month without having to consult the other (i.e., an allowance). I agree that a lot of potential trouble can come from financial discussions, but my wife's and my approach is to have a combined account so that it's all "in the open". A middle ground could be separate "petty cash"-type accounts that get a monthly allowance from your shared account.

Most diovorces are connected directly or indirectly to finances. You may be headed the wrong direction with your leaky bucket.

 

[Wesley]

FIFY

I see you added some verbiage to my original comment.:twitcy:

 

[Storkenheimer]

Yea, don't do it. :biglaugh:

This

 

[balken]

seriously though. it's a special day like saturday when you want to make her happy and give her something she'll remember and cherish forever....

sure is a lot to choose from there....

Definitely good advice here. I would suggest a combination move, just make sure not to consult her first. The best gifts are those which are not expected.

 

[zumbro clones]

Did you go to any pre-marital counseling sessions? Hope you did.

It's really important that you keep using good communication practices. It starts out great but money, kids, house, and other stressors end up fouling things up.

If you haven't you should find ways to learn more about ways to keep communicating in a stressful environment.

 

[d4nim4l]

Make sure you have sex during the reception in a bathroom stall. Otherwise someone will be too tired later in the night.

 

[4429 mcc]

Did you go to any pre-marital counseling sessions? Hope you did.

It's really important that you keep using good communication practices. It starts out great but money, kids, house, and other stressors end up fouling things up.

If you haven't you should find ways to learn more about ways to keep communicating in a stressful environment.

Are you talking about Swinging? You have to be talking about swinging.

 

[ISU4ME]

Learn this phrase:

"Yes dear you were/are right." Be prepared to use it even when it is not true.

 

[Senolcyc]

Any last minute pieces of advice from all you fanatics who are married?

Have a lot of sex this week. It's the best you'll ever have for the rest of your life.

 

[Clonehomer]

Get her two presents on the day of the wedding. Thr first sent before the ceremony (jewelry works nice). The second, have something for her to wear that night waiting in the hotel room (this is actually for you).