Fan Boundaries with Student Athletes

[isufbcurt]

I think I have to first ask why converse is in quotes, are these women in danger?

No danger at all. Because the terms hit on or pick up are viewed negatively so I used “converse”.

 

[DGC]

I was at a resort in Hawaii last year and Ryan Fitzpatrick was there with his family. I saw him multiple times by the pool and bar area and whatnot. I thought about chatting him up but I left it alone. Guy is trying to have a family vacation and doesn't need some dude trying to talk to him about his Fitzmagic days.

Only other semi famous person I talked to was Jake Sullivan. He was in line behind me at HyVee and was commenting on my booze selection. I never even let on that I knew who he was. Can you believe he started talking to a perfect stranger like that in a public place? Creepy.

Fitz probably could have used some help wrangling his 11ish children.

 

[BooneCy]

I personally don’t think a handshake or asking for a picture is too much. It’s when people start noticing and a crowd gathers around me with wives trying to give me their number in front of their husbands that makes it akward

Welcome to my life!

 

[3TrueFans]

No danger at all. Because the terms hit on or pick up are viewed negatively so I used “converse”.

You’re a married 50 year old accountant, right?

 

[CycloneDaddy]

You’re a married 50 year old accountant, right?

Sir, this is a judge free zone.

 

[ryanliberty]

JFC.

No woman, or man, for that matter, is your property, no matter how much s/he's been paid or for what.

And not anywhere where s/he just happens to be.

Bless this response. Getting paid has zero to do with it.

 

[NorthCyd]

Sir, this is a judge free zone.

 

[Ms3r4ISU]

I usually strike up conversations with priests and rabbis when they walk into bars, but always leave horses alone. Never seen one in a bar that wasn't long in the face.

Again, I am skimming too quickly and not reading posts for understanding. I thought you said, "I usually strike up conversations with plants and rabbits when they walk in bars,...." and I wondered what the punch line of the joke was.

 

[drmwevr08]

My buddy and I were in an out of the way joint on a quiet week night in Miami Beach and Shaq and a friend came in. I would have loved to have approached him, but it seemed to me like they came there knowing it would be sleepy and maybe he'd get left alone, so we did.
I'm not going to hammer someone who would have done differently, it's not really my style anyway, but nobody really owes you anything in that setting. Its not at the arena or a public event.

 

[3TrueFans]

Sir, this is a judge free zone.

Your rules mean nothing to me.

 

[isufbcurt]

You’re a married 50 year old accountant, right?

I’m not 50 yet. And what’s your point?

 

[ISUTex]

That could be said about any public setting. I'm not sure what point you think I'm trying to make?

Not sure either. My point was why would a d1 female athlete hangout by themselves at a bar? Social butterfly or not.

 

[Jnecker4cy]

When I was first married, we lived in a western suburb of Chicago named Elmhurst and many Chicago Blackhawk players lived there as well. We would often see a young Jeremy Roenick and his defenseman roommate at a Greek breakfast restaurant named the Rainbow, which did brisk business. I never saw anyone approach Roenick, which is probably why he frequented the place - he could eat without being bothered.

Several months ago, a retirement age male board member related a story where he entered a small Ames bar to meet friends, saw a high profile female basketball player sitting alone at a table and approached her, "conversing for several minutes". He said she sat alone the entire time she was there, which he thought was "weird". The player was one of our first "unexpected" transfer portal losses.

I'm firmly in the camp that formal boundaries should be in place between fans and student athletes, especially female student athletes. An adult male wouldn't walk into a small towny bar, see an anonymous twenty year-old girl sitting alone at a table, walk up and engage her in conversation. I feel strongly the same should hold true for an ISU WBB player - she was sitting alone by choice - leave her alone. I said as much in the thread and was surprised by the number of people who felt otherwise.

It's a slow time of the ISU athletic year and I'm always interested in the opinions of others. I'm not talking about college-aged or young adults, rather mature adults ages 40 & over. Would you approach a female athlete sitting alone in a bar minding their own business? When is it permissible to approach a female student athlete in public? When is it permissible to approach any ISU student athlete in public?

Dude get a life...

 

[ESciGuy]

Not a student athlete, but wasn't it said that Carol Hoiberg was ready to leave Ames due to the amount of people who would come up to her and not leave her alone at the grocery store?

Could be, but I'm skeptical. How many would recognize Carol Hoiberg? I sure as hell wouldn't.

 

[CloniesForLife]

I used to do that in college. Prolly just an introvert that wanted to get out a bit but not really be in a mess of people.

I used to think it was weird how codependent people were that didn't have the ability to just sit and have a beer alone.

Prior to kids I used to go to breweries every once and awhile by myself. They may have had a beer I wanted to try or to your point I just wanted to be out and about a bit but not really with anyone.

 

[CycloneDaddy]

Anyone have any questions for the drake AD? Sitting next to him at a kid event.

 

[CyCrazy]

Anyone have any questions for the drake AD? Sitting next to him at a kid event.

Ask him what his thoughts are on the D+ campaign.

 

[Bipolarcy]

So you were interested in the guy but not the girl?

Another poster whose parents failed him in the birds and bees talk. There's a lot of that going around lately.

 

[VeloClone]

If it was a cowboys game, Barry really did not do much coaching if he was walking to the John.

It was a Cowboys game but long after Barry was no longer coaching.

 

[VeloClone]

What if I see an attractive female out in public who is an athlete but I don’t know she’s an athlete, can I still go “converse” with her?

What if I know she’s an athlete but I play dumb and don’t bring up anything regarding athletics, can I still go “converse” with her?

Nope, you are a creeper if you converse with any woman because she may be, may have been, or may be in the future an athlete at some level.

You're welcome...