CycloneErik
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They actually have a couch in the rooms now for the dad to sleep. It's not too bad.
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They actually have a couch in the rooms now for the dad to sleep. It's not too bad.
that's what I've always heard from friends and my mom. That visitors in the hospital were stressful. So I always wait a few days (or weeks, pending distance and schedule), take food, hold baby if it's ok and not linger. When our friend had her baby a couple years ago, they had actually just run out to Target with her parents (husband was home) so we dropped the food with him and left. He was clearly trying to take a quick nap and even though he kindly offered for us to hang out til they got back, we said we had to get going and we'd meet the baby another day.
For every kid except the first, the hospital had a double bed for husband to stay with me. I think my husband did this so he wouldn't have to take care of the other kids lol. First boy was in NICU at first, low glucose, not a big deal, but husband wasn't going anywhere. They brought him a cot that time.
My personal preference for most visitors was hospital after birth, not home. The hospital is kind of boring and the baby sleeps most of the time anyway. The house, always worried about the house being a mess. Also, MIL would stay and expect me to wait on her hand and foot while she sat around holding the baby when he should be in bed. My mother would stay and do all the cooking and cleaning and watching the other boys and let me just deal with baby.
We had family and friends in the waiting room for both of our births. Neither of us had any issue with it. Of course, they were all very respectful and gave us time to get quality family time in beforehand.
In fact, we were the first birth in our group of 8 friends (some married, some not). Having everyone there was pretty cool, honestly.
In fact, we were the first birth in our group of 8 friends (some married, some not). Having everyone there was pretty cool, honestly.
We were like this as well. When we got home, we needed to work out our schedules and needed time to do it. Having people stop by when the baby was sleeping or eating was something else to worry about. And for a husband that was taking the week off from work, I was incredibly selfish with my time with my wife and daughter.
Yep. Even needed a little time for the dog to get used to a baby with the first one. I'm sure it is different for different people. I feel like the best thing to do is just ask the parents what they prefer before the baby arrives. If you are close enough to go see the newborn, you are surely close enough to these people to just ask and accept their answer.
CycloneErik
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We had a larger crowd in the waiting room for our 1st, for sympathy's sake, than our 2nd.
But the 1st emerged in the afternoon, while Z met the world just after 1 in the morning and headed pretty quickly to the NICU.
But the 1st emerged in the afternoon, while Z met the world just after 1 in the morning and headed pretty quickly to the NICU.
My mother was supposed to come help when I had the first. She was going to arrive before the due date but that plan was foiled when the little bugger came three weeks early. She came the day after he was born but there wasn't a lot for her to do because he went straight back to the hospital under the bilirubin lights for four days. Basically she chauffeured me back & forth to the hospital.
We were visiting for Thanksgiving the next year (baby was 11 mos old), and were able to tell them that I was expecting again. We left to go back to Pullman, and she suffered a brain aneurysm, went into a coma, and passed about four days later. What I wouldn't have given to have her there taking care of firstborn while I focused on newborn.
The MIL isn't usually the one to go help out when grandkids are born, but I did help twice with my older son. His second-born was 5 weeks early; her mother was a teacher and couldn't just leave, so I went up to take care of firstborn until the other grandma could get there, so son could spend time with wife & newborn at NICU. She was SOOOO tiny! When the fourth was born, they had a friend to watch the older three until fourth arrived, then my son was going to pick them up and take them to the private birthing suite where mom & new sis were located. Small problem - child #3 came down with a bad cold - fever, sneezes, runny nose, everything you DON'T want near a newborn. So once again, I boogied over there to take care of #3 mostly, but also #s 1&2 part of the time. The rest of the grandkids, some we saw right away, others not so quickly. Only three of them were actually born in Ames/Des Moines. The rest were in Missouri, Wisconsin, Rhode Island, California, Nebraska & Washington.
We were visiting for Thanksgiving the next year (baby was 11 mos old), and were able to tell them that I was expecting again. We left to go back to Pullman, and she suffered a brain aneurysm, went into a coma, and passed about four days later. What I wouldn't have given to have her there taking care of firstborn while I focused on newborn.
The MIL isn't usually the one to go help out when grandkids are born, but I did help twice with my older son. His second-born was 5 weeks early; her mother was a teacher and couldn't just leave, so I went up to take care of firstborn until the other grandma could get there, so son could spend time with wife & newborn at NICU. She was SOOOO tiny! When the fourth was born, they had a friend to watch the older three until fourth arrived, then my son was going to pick them up and take them to the private birthing suite where mom & new sis were located. Small problem - child #3 came down with a bad cold - fever, sneezes, runny nose, everything you DON'T want near a newborn. So once again, I boogied over there to take care of #3 mostly, but also #s 1&2 part of the time. The rest of the grandkids, some we saw right away, others not so quickly. Only three of them were actually born in Ames/Des Moines. The rest were in Missouri, Wisconsin, Rhode Island, California, Nebraska & Washington.
Should probably just go ahead and name the next thread "RTT XI - Birth Talk Sagas" 
This is how we are too. Especially after having four total people (my aunt and uncle, my MIL and a friend) come visit us at the hospital in Wichita.
Should probably just go ahead and name the next thread "RTT XI - Birth Talk Sagas"
Birth won't kill you. Maybe it can be birthing on bicycles with fireworks and sports roundup?
The hospital is not a private setting by nature, what with a dozen lactation specialists grabbing your boobs and nurses around to change diapers and what not. What's a few more people there anyway? But getting used to a new routine at home is more private.
Right now I'm feeling blessed to have had bigger kids at birth. All were early (all planned Cs are 1-2 weeks early) and lightest was just shy of 8 lbs. We didn't have any ICU situations thankfully. Oldest was could push himself up to his elbows and look around 2 days after birth.
Wife and I saw Atomic Blonde yesterday on a whim. We dropped our daughter off at a birthday party and it was the only movie that fit into our 3 hour time schedule.
It was.... interesting. I can't say I'd recommend it because I'm not sure I understood what the hell was going on a lot of the time. It felt like it was trying to be Mission Impossible, Sin City, Smoking Aces, and Le Femme Nikita all wrapped into one. Charlize Theron kicked a fair amount of ass, though.
It was.... interesting. I can't say I'd recommend it because I'm not sure I understood what the hell was going on a lot of the time. It felt like it was trying to be Mission Impossible, Sin City, Smoking Aces, and Le Femme Nikita all wrapped into one. Charlize Theron kicked a fair amount of ass, though.
We saw Valerian and whatever the rest of the title was and it wasn't as bad as the reviews. I described it to popcorn kid in concessions as a sort of really long episode of Star Trek. Not terrible. Husband must see all sci fi.
Or "bike riding and running sagas to shame the less fit", perhaps?Should probably just go ahead and name the next thread "RTT XI - Birth Talk Sagas"
I went to get a 10lb bag of jerky and stupid me got the wrong kind. I grabbed a bag out of the cart that said BBQ. I get back in the car and open it and it's peppered. I'll eat it anyway. I'll probably add some BBQ seasoning to it.
Yeah, 10lbs jerky would be what, about 2 pounds of sodium?
Good protein source, though!
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