Possible Groomsman Crisis
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I've been in multiple as ushers/groomsman and I had to pay roughly $120-$200 each time for tux rentals. This is the first time I've heard that sometimes the bride/groom pay for the wedding party.
Had the groomsman but the shirt for us once that we got to keep but that was it.
Had the groomsman but the shirt for us once that we got to keep but that was it.
Aren't paying for their tuxes.....
yeah, you may want to rethink this whole wedding/marriage thing.
yeah, you may want to rethink this whole wedding/marriage thing.
I didn't read the thread before posting, but this guy typed what I should have typed.
Glad to see so many posters agreeing with me. I think it's best to cover the rentals if you are asking someone to be in the party and as other posters have mentioned, just don't get them a gift that they may not want.
It really is a matter of preference, but I would hate to ask someone to pay for something that I am wanting them to do in the first place. Plus, I don't know every situation obviously, but if you are dropping 5,10, 15...25k on a wedding, I would think that you should handle that kind of thing. Of course I also think it's insane to drop 10k+ on a wedding. Imagine what the couple could do with that money if they are starting out.
It really is a matter of preference, but I would hate to ask someone to pay for something that I am wanting them to do in the first place. Plus, I don't know every situation obviously, but if you are dropping 5,10, 15...25k on a wedding, I would think that you should handle that kind of thing. Of course I also think it's insane to drop 10k+ on a wedding. Imagine what the couple could do with that money if they are starting out.
Drop the tuxes, tuxes are stupid. Buy all your groomsmen a decent suit. The suit can also be their gift that you have to purchase. Everyone will need a suit at some point. Asking people to be in your wedding and then expecting them to spend money on it is one of the most ridiculous things that has become the norm.
If you are making them pay, don't rent tuxes. Get suits at a place like Men's Warehouse. At least they would have something for the money. You buy the ties. They just need to wear black dress shoes. Best idea ever.
I think we had the groomsmen pay for their own attire, but everyone was fairly well-established in their careers.
Also, if you wait until you're well-established in your (and your wife's) career, you can expect the parents to not pay for anything.
Also, if you wait until you're well-established in your (and your wife's) career, you can expect the parents to not pay for anything.
So if everyone is broke, get married and pay for your buddies outfits.
Or wait to get married so that everyone can pay for their own.
I know the only reason I waited to get married was so that my groomsman could pay for their own outfits.
I have been in numerous weddings and only once was it paid for along with our hotel. The budget of that entire wedding though was probably around $50k. One other one we were given a tie, rented a shirt and pants. I wish we would have gone more of that route in our wedding but whatevs. Everyone bought their own in ours but the furthest person traveled two hours and carpooled.
We paid for the tuxes, as well as bridesmaid dresses and shoes. We got married 30 years ago though, so it was perfectly fine to only have three on each side and didn't bother with the whole paid for hair, makeup, and nails thing that seem so common now.
Not sure what we did. I got to say where we rented the tuxes and who would make the cake (who she wanted anyhow). Besides that I didn't get to decide anything else.
I've only been a groomsmen once so far, for my sister's wedding last fall. I had to pay for the Tux rental (about $180) and travel 12 hours. I'm a groomsmen for a college buddy this fall, but I haven't heard about any of the details yet.
I would much rather pay $200 for a suit that I got to keep afterwards. I think every situation is a little bit different, but I wouldn't expect to have my attire paid for by the bride and groom. If they choose to do so I think it's great, but I wouldn't be upset if they didn't.
In the OP's case, you should just ask him and if he objects to the price, offer to pay for the rental since he has expensive travel costs. No need to tell the others.
I would much rather pay $200 for a suit that I got to keep afterwards. I think every situation is a little bit different, but I wouldn't expect to have my attire paid for by the bride and groom. If they choose to do so I think it's great, but I wouldn't be upset if they didn't.
In the OP's case, you should just ask him and if he objects to the price, offer to pay for the rental since he has expensive travel costs. No need to tell the others.
