Just to update everyone - as I'm sure you're all very interested in what I decided. (semi-

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I went to Deerfield, WI last night with the young lady to a mom n pop dealer and indoor range. They talked us into test firing a (barely) used glock 19 previously owned by a cop. She liked it, wasn't intimidated by it, and showed some improvement in comfort and confidence between her first shot (ever) and her last - probably about 20+ trigger pulls. So, I bought it. I think she's pretty excited about it.
Overall, he experience was pretty good. She was a bit overwhelmed by all the talk, but when we got into the range, she was pretty excited about shooting. Said she "could see herself doing this for fun."
Success! Thanks to all who provided some great things for me to think about. In a couple intense days of talk and research, I think I have a decent, (yet basic) understanding of handguns. She/ We will be enrolling ourselves at the range for professional instruction.