Coronavirus: Group Therapy

[WhoISthis]

Just no plans to look forward to, no gym, etc.

Prior to this I had some nice trips planned and I would go out to eat most nights, or go to the gym. With my arthritis, the elliptical was big. Eventually I’ll get the bike outside

 

[StormnClone58]

Every year i take the first week of the tournament off, and have some ME time with my guy friends. Have a personal event called BBB(bikes, beers, and basketball). Hop to/from different establishments to eat bar food, drink, and relax. Always a good time, and will definitely miss it this year.

 

[Cyientist]

After having the same routine for almost 3 years where I work from home, my wife works in the office, and my kid goes to daycare, we’re all at home now. Like 24/7. It’s been like 4 days and I’m already thinking about tazing myself for fun. I miss my alone time.

Same here.

We are fortunate that my wife is a teacher so we will have child care covered.

I feel bad though, she’s done a great job these first few days with limited activity options. In the past I would tell her to head out and I’d take care of the kids. I guess I could tell her to go to our basement and have some wine while I prevent the kids from getting down there.

 

[BCClone]

I’m ticked that ISUs spring break luckily lined up with the schools and we were going to NY for the first time. Cancelled out. Now I’m out $500 in things here and there and have a plane credit that we probably won’t have time to use.

 

[cstrunk]

I'm supposed to get married May 23rd. Lots of uncertainty about all of that, on top of the normal wedding planning stresses. Will we be able to even have it? Will we get refunds if we can't? What about out of town travelers. Tell them not to come? And will they have to eat hundreds of dollars if they can't get refunds for airplane tickets and such?

My bachelor party is next weekend. We aren't planning on doing much public stuff anyways (lakehouse airBnB) and there's only going to be 5-6 of us... but should I even have it? Cancel it?

It just sucks that we have to think about all of this instead of just being excited and happy.

 

[CyArob]

My house is going to be so clean by the end of this. Might do some remodeling too to pass the time.

 

[Doc]

I was fortunate enough to be able to take a 3 month break from my job starting in mid-February and now the ski resorts are all closed as well as the Denver golf courses I bought a pass for .

I’m pretty much assuming the job won’t be back for me in three months due to the general economic slowdown, but that’s not a real big worry for me since I don’t have a family to support.

 

[mywayorcyway]

Just no plans to look forward to...

That pretty much sums it up for me. I'm just bored.

This has made me realize some things about working from home now that I'm seeing so many stories. I've worked from home for 13 years - I literally have not had an office location away from the house, not even a corporate office or some building I could go to. So I've sat in one room for seven years, moved and bought a different house, and I've now sat in a different room for six years.

It's lonely and I'm really getting tired of this room.

 

[ImJustKCClone]

I am DESPERATELY missing the end of the NCAA MBB season, the tournaments, the dance, the family bracket challenge, the cinderella teams, the buzzer beaters...ALL of that. Every personal memory popping up on my Facebook feed right now is basketball related. Every year, my husband and I have set aside this upcoming four day weekend and parked in front of the tv for non-stop basketball. I miss it.

I miss traveling. We're used to being home a lot because we're retired, but it feels different when you feel you HAVE to stay home. We had to cancel a road trip to Texas for my father's 96th birthday at the end of next week, and we have also canceled a road trip to the West Coast in June. We have a cruise scheduled for the end of August with our two oldest granddaughters (their first). We're holding our breath on that one, but I'm grateful that we opted for trip insurance.

 

[ImJustKCClone]

I'm supposed to get married May 23rd. Lots of uncertainty about all of that, on top of the normal wedding planning stresses. Will we be able to even have it? Will we get refunds if we can't? What about out of town travelers. Tell them not to come? And will they have to eat hundreds of dollars if they can't get refunds for airplane tickets and such?

My bachelor party is next weekend. We aren't planning on doing much public stuff anyways (lakehouse airBnB) and there's only going to be 5-6 of us... but should I even have it? Cancel it?

It just sucks that we have to think about all of this instead of just being excited and happy.

I know several couples in your situation. It sucks. I'm sorry!

 

[TakeCover]

Moved into my in-laws' basement in November with my wife and our 1-year old daughter. A few reasons for that. My wife was granted an extended work-from-home request so that I, a stay-at-home dad since the kiddo came along, can work alongside my dad on the family farm. Idea was to have Grandma watch our daughter a few days/week when she's not in daycare, live cheaply under their roof/rules, and save up for a home of our own. We left our life in Ankeny for the Sioux Falls, SD, area to do all this.

Wife works in advertising. I'm worried about the prolonged economic slowdown's impact on that industry. I'm a glorified farmhand for now, but can't envision family farms having great years, either, especially following a brutal 2019 season. Always figured I could find more stable employment if needed, "everyone's hiring!!"

Hard to know what to plan for all of a sudden.

 

[NWICY]

I was fortunate enough to be able to take a 3 month break from my job starting in mid-February and now the ski resorts are all closed as well as the Denver golf courses I bought a pass for .

I’m pretty much assuming the job won’t be back for me in three months due to the general economic slowdown, but that’s not a real big worry for me since I don’t have a family to support.

So Doc did you get a bunch of skiing in?

 

[Doc]

So Doc did you get a bunch of skiing in?

5 days. One cut short because my buddy tore his lcl and dislocated his kneecap. This may be good as I will get out and skin more.

 

[bluestarcyclone]

That pretty much sums it up for me. I'm just bored.

This has made me realize some things about working from home now that I'm seeing so many stories. I've worked from home for 13 years - I literally have not had an office location away from the house, not even a corporate office or some building I could go to. So I've sat in one room for seven years, moved and bought a different house, and I've now sat in a different room for six years.

It's lonely and I'm really getting tired of this room.

I've been in a very similar situation. Worked from home for 11 years now. I feel this post.

I usually get by by really looking to keep my evenings and weekends busy. But now, with everything closed and even gatherings of friends discouraged, even though i've been WFH for years, it feels like this could be absolutely soul crushing if this goes on for months.

 

[Jer]

I think the hardest part is the simple unknown of everything. When the only thing you have to look forward to is the occasional trip to Hy-Vee, and even then you have to worry about not catching the virus in your one chance out of solitary confinement, it takes a toll pretty quickly.

Add on to that the balancing one's own issues with trying to stay positive and keep the kids busy and active is really difficult. I have a 4 and 9 year old, each with ADHD and very active minds. Keeping them challenged while also working is a challenge - and there is a constant worry about them learning enough if we don't have school again until fall.

So basically, it's just a bunch of new challenges that are really all in our heads but still very real and profound at times.

 

[CoachHines3]

have a 2 week trip planned to Ireland in September. Not worried about it right now.. but if this is still a thing in June/July.. may get concerned.

 

[madguy30]

I'm supposed to get married May 23rd. Lots of uncertainty about all of that, on top of the normal wedding planning stresses. Will we be able to even have it? Will we get refunds if we can't? What about out of town travelers. Tell them not to come? And will they have to eat hundreds of dollars if they can't get refunds for airplane tickets and such?

My bachelor party is next weekend. We aren't planning on doing much public stuff anyways (lakehouse airBnB) and there's only going to be 5-6 of us... but should I even have it? Cancel it?

It just sucks that we have to think about all of this instead of just being excited and happy.

Cancel all, go to a courthouse to do the marriage part.

Saves money and is safer, and the results otherwise will be the same....you'll be married.

 

[Clonefan32]

I was talking to a friend about the Iowa State vs. Kentucky round of 32 game. If I'm remembering correctly, it was a Friday, it was St. Patrick's Day and it was gorgeous outside. I remember moving the TV to the deck with some friends, grilling, drinking, watching the game, etc.

Now compare that to the present.

Kinda bums you out.

 

[GMackey32]

I'm a buyer for a food service company and 90%+ of our customers are restaurants and bars in Iowa, Minnesota, and Illinois. As much as I saw the shutting of bars and restaurants down coming, it still sucks and has me worried. We're doing a pretty good job of helping them convert to pick-up/car side to go which will help them (and us) in the long run, but at some point we have to stop running routes. We aren't making enough money on these orders to sustain staying open if this goes longer than March 31st.

Also, my wireless router crapped out on me last night. My wife and I stream everything. So I'm off to the store today to purchase one instead of finding a good deal online and having it shipped.

We have elderly neighbors (in their 90's), one with health issues. My wife and I are nervous for them, but we let them know to not hesitate asking us to run errands for them. I definitely don't want them out right now, especially with how crazy the stores are.

 

[PineClone]

Selfish positives:

• High school club lacrosse season cancelled so my calendar is suddenly wide open (all of their away games require at least 5 hours of travel).
• Spending more quality time with the kids, playing board games, catch in the yard, etc.
• The pubs are closed so am going straight home after work and going for a bike ride or canoe paddle.
• The pubs are closed (but take to-go orders) so tonight I'm filling a growler and meeting the bromies at a park where we will sit at the corners of a picnic table and enjoy a pint.