My dad just got remarried at age 95. A friend asked "why would he want to get married at that age?", to which I replied "who said he wanted to?"
My hope is I can follow in his footsteps
Who wrote the marital rights laws in Iowa?
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My hope is I can follow in his footsteps
I don't see the point in getting married if you don't want children. I understand the advantages of joint filing, etc. but it's also a pretty big risk for both parties. If you trust enough to get married then in my opinion you should trust enough to not get married and still serve each other in the relationship.
Of the firms I work with- Not many... not many.
Thats very noble of you. If I took the kids and still had to pay child support there's no way I could be within 50ft of my ex. Her even trying to get it when you have the kids is awful. Youre a better man than me for sure.
I dont see the point of getting married if you do want kids. Everyone person in America should read through this thread.
I agree because things didnt work out and it ended in a divorce doesn't mean you should hate her. The fact she asked for child support when you had the kids should.
That's new attorney time there. When I divorced many yrs ago it took me about 5 attorney visits to find one that actually wanted to help defend my stuff. Most were like whatever they present we are going to accept.
The ex still lied in court about health insurance but I was able to prove it afterwards my lawyer sent her lawyer a letter and things got changed for they were in no hurry to go back and relitigate the whole thing lying under oath is a bad look.
I know I'll get creamed for saying this, but I don't think it's as simple as that.
I'm probably in the minority on this (and that's okay), but if you feel like you cannot marry your partner until they sign a legal document to prevent them from taking an unfair share of your material possessions in case your marriage together doesn't work out, then maybe you are not ready for marriage. I think that's the whole point of wedding vows.
Eh not really. It’s protecting yourself. I have car insurance and it’s certainly not because I’m a bad driver. No accidents and one speeding ticket. It’s basically marriage insurance. When 50 percent of something fails, having insurance to protect yourself assets is a good idea. 50 percent of marriage fails these days. That’s a huge percentage of failure.
While that all makes perfect sense, I don't equate committing the rest of my life with the woman I love to driving a car.
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With 50/50 custody in Iowa, it's just what you make vs what they make and the formula paid is based on that difference, so it's really just a matter of men usually making more money.
I think we’re part of different generations so that might be why but I get your point.
I’m in my late 30’s grew up with a ton of friends who went through divorce which included my wife’s parents as well. Some of the divorces were extremely ugly bitter things that have already been mentioned in this thread.
No one gets married thinking they are going to get a divorce yet the divorce rates are extremely high. I have yet to ever meet someone that got a prenup that regretted it yet I know of and have met plenty of people that didn’t get one that do regret not having it in place.
I know one guy that asked for a prenup and that stopped the the marriage from happening. While they were still engaged and working through that the guy had a nasty accident and died. So in the long run, I guess he didn’t have to worry.
Did he lie on his loan application? Did he answer Single instead of married?
I wouldn't have married my wife if I did not trust her enough not to take half my belongings.
That story took a hard turn at the end there...
I understand both points of view. But practically everyone I know who is divorced should not have gotten married to begin with. The maturity of the relationship was never there to begin with, and all the signs of people who knew them would tend to agree. SO many people rush into marriage, and that's a terrible decision. I'm sure there is no shortage of judgment against the wife and I to date for 5 years before I proposed, and then another 2 years of engagement more or less. But hey, I knew through and through what I was getting. Can't say the same for the folks who had to make sure the ring was on the finger before bedroom shenanigans were allowed.
