Friday OT - Dear Abby

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Please share your questions to the "Dear CF" advice column. PLEASE KEEP IT PG, but otherwise - have at it. Perhaps we can take turns give each other advice, IDK, I haven't really fleshed this idea out.

Dear CF,

My 5-year-old will only eat "white toast with white butter" (ergo, toast racist) and won't wear pink, purple, or any clothing he deems "girly" (clothes misogynist). To where should we move to help prevent him from growing up to be a member of the food KKK or a cereal killer? Thanks in advance.

Cordially,
No, I'm Not Proud of the Pun
 
What exactly is PG rated? I remember watching a Molly Ringwald movie when I was 13 or 14 and saw a topless girl. (I loved that movie instantly). That was a PG movie. I watched part of the Irishman last night and believe that may be R due to swearing and violence. So according to that as long as I don’t swear, I can post a junkster and still be PG?
 
Is this like the Friday mailbag? I guess we get faster response so it’s probably better.

Sort of? I was watching a show with a subplot about an advice columnist, and it sort of made me wonder how that would even work on CF. I was hoping "silly" was the answer.
 
What exactly is PG rated? I remember watching a Molly Ringwald movie when I was 13 or 14 and saw a topless girl. (I loved that movie instantly). That was a PG movie. I watched part of the Irishman last night and believe that may be R due to swearing and violence. So according to that as long as I don’t swear, I can post a junkster and still be PG?

LOL - um, def don't post any topless (or bottomless) photos. And I don't particularly care about swearing, so long as you let the filter catch it. Maybe just try and shy away from being graphic or violating other CF rules?
 
Please share your questions to the "Dear CF" advice column. PLEASE KEEP IT PG, but otherwise - have at it. Perhaps we can take turns give each other advice, IDK, I haven't really fleshed this idea out.

Dear CF,

My 5-year-old will only eat "white toast with white butter" (ergo, toast racist) and won't wear pink, purple, or any clothing he deems "girly" (clothes misogynist). To where should we move to help prevent him from growing up to be a member of the food KKK or a cereal killer? Thanks in advance.

Cordially,
No, I'm Not Proud of the Pun
My advice - You should be proud of the pun.
 
Sort of? I was watching a show with a subplot about an advice columnist, and it sort of made me wonder how that would even work on CF. I was hoping "silly" was the answer.
What movie? Unless lifetime or hallmark, then I haven’t seen it. Or would never admit it.
 
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What exactly is PG rated? I remember watching a Molly Ringwald movie when I was 13 or 14 and saw a topless girl. (I loved that movie instantly). That was a PG movie. I watched part of the Irishman last night and believe that may be R due to swearing and violence. So according to that as long as I don’t swear, I can post a junkster and still be PG?

I have noticed movie ratings have gotten way more strict since the 80's.
 
Please share your questions to the "Dear CF" advice column. PLEASE KEEP IT PG, but otherwise - have at it. Perhaps we can take turns give each other advice, IDK, I haven't really fleshed this idea out.

Dear CF,

My 5-year-old will only eat "white toast with white butter" (ergo, toast racist) and won't wear pink, purple, or any clothing he deems "girly" (clothes misogynist). To where should we move to help prevent him from growing up to be a member of the food KKK or a cereal killer? Thanks in advance.

Cordially,
No, I'm Not Proud of the Pun

You could move to Oregon where DD lives. Last year their then2-year-old son picked out a pink coat. His dad was so embarrassed. GS just liked the bright color. It still fits so he still wears it and still gives Dad fits. Maybe the kids could swap coats. Or something.
 
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Please share your questions to the "Dear CF" advice column. PLEASE KEEP IT PG, but otherwise - have at it. Perhaps we can take turns give each other advice, IDK, I haven't really fleshed this idea out.

Dear CF,

My 5-year-old will only eat "white toast with white butter" (ergo, toast racist) and won't wear pink, purple, or any clothing he deems "girly" (clothes misogynist). To where should we move to help prevent him from growing up to be a member of the food KKK or a cereal killer? Thanks in advance.

Cordially,
No, I'm Not Proud of the Pun
Dear CF,

I know of this person. He professes to be a man but the only movies he watches are Lifetime or Hallmark movies. I'm a little old-fashioned (I think it's still important to be polite) and I don't think there's anything particularly wrong with watching these movies except that they are boring and predictable. That being said, is this person trying to cover his true gender or is he actually a sensitive soul?

Thank you in advance for your advice.

Sincerely,

BodeClone
 
Here's a legitimate life question I'm pondering.

I work independently in my job like 85% of the time. The other 15% is spent in meetings. I rarely have an impromptu meeting or co-worker "walk-in" happen in my day-to-day. I work/live in Minneapolis. My wife and I really want to move back to central IA to be closer to family and live in a smaller community. I think this can easily be done with my current employer. However, we don't really have any remote employees in the company. At some point, I want to ask my boss about going remote. He seems to really like my work and I really enjoy my job. That being said, if he were to say "no," then I'm likely looking for a new job in order for us to move.

Here's the question: When do I ask my boss? If I ask soon, I could get a "yes" and we start the process of moving. I could also get a "no" and then I'm awkwardly looking for a new job but not really ready to leave my current one; and I will have created a weird dynamic between my boss and I. Or, do I put out feelers about a new job, and then ask about the remote thing so I've already got Plan B, C, and D no matter what his answer is.

I'll hang up and listen.
 
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Serious, but not personal. So not sure if it fits. Was thinking of starting a new thread anyway about this so here goes:

My winter project is scanning a lifetime of photographs. The idea was to finally get them all sorted and then ditch (shred) the hard copy prints.

I've made great progress in the scanning task, but now I have to figure out how to electronically organize them. Obviously the main goal is to be able to find specific photo or photos when I want them.

To complicate the matter I also have all my parents' photos and a good portion from my paternal grandparents too.

Lastly, one of my long time best friends is a frustrated still photographer so has, since college, taken and sent me many many pictures to include hundreds of concert and celebrity photos (Mostly concert)

My first thought was categories like

Family:
- Immediate
-Paternal Grandparents & families
- Maternal Grandparents & families
Friends
Celebrities
-Concert
-Other
Pets and animals
Places
-Vacations
- Homes past and present
-General landscapes
Documents (baptisms, Funeral and birth announcements etc)
Unknown places/people

I kind of started to do this but ran into lots of conflicts. Pics of family and friends.
Vacations with family at places probably should be kept together as a set. Pets with family. Pets with friends. etc etc.

Actually labeling/titling the photos is another question. Any hints?

Bottom line - Anyone here done this and found a simple way to categorize your life images?

(PS: Also having a very difficult time making myself shred the older photos. Just seems like such a shame that they've survived so long and then I'm just going to trash them - even though I've scanned them and made backups. I can be a bit sentimental about 'things'. Thinking of maybe offering them to family members if they want them.)
 
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Dear CF,

I'm very proud of my 12 year-old daughter. She is a great student, is very caring and has a great sense of humor. I couldn't be prouder of the young woman she's becoming. She is also very skilled in soccer and video games. <chuckle> Sometimes she even beats me in both soccer and video games....it's uh.....it's becoming more and more common actually. The other day, I was playing video games with the little bugger and after she killed me for the 5th time in a row, she started laughing a little bit. Ok, a lot. Ah, ha ha. Yeah, that pretty funny. She then asked if I was playing with my eyes closed which was....yeah.

Anyway, CF, does anyone want to adopt a smart-assed little monster?

Signed
Defeated Dad
 
Eleven year old son picked out a bright pink Underarmour sweatshirt. He is comfortable going against convention. He may be influenced by my one pink shirt and tie which I make sure I wear on any day the priest is wearing rose vestments. I also talk about every rider wanting to wear pink in the Giro d'Italia.

The Holy Grail of the Giro: The Maglia Rosa.
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First my responses, then I'll Dear Abby the most recent posts:

My advice - You should be proud of the pun.

Puns usually make me a little dead inside, but still laugh. I don't know how to reconcile that!

What movie? Unless lifetime or hallmark, then I haven’t seen it. Or would never admit it.

Ah, I totally have Lifetime and Hallmark hidden in our satellite guide, because they make me itchy. :D It was actually season 6 of "Downton Abbey" - which, while period dramas aren't for everyone, is fantastically made.

You could move to Oregon where DD lives. Last year their then2-year-old son picked out a pink coat. His dad was so embarrassed. GS just liked the bright color. It still fits so he still wears it and still gives Dad fits. Maybe the kids could swap coats. Or something.

What's bizarre is that almost every man in his life wears at least some pink and purple. So I think such a positive role model his similar age would be great!
 
Here's a legitimate life question I'm pondering.

I work independently in my job like 85% of the time. The other 15% is spent in meetings. I rarely have an impromptu meeting or co-worker "walk-in" happen in my day-to-day. I work/live in Minneapolis. My wife and I really want to move back to central IA to be closer to family and live in a smaller community. I think this can easily be done with my current employer. However, we don't really have any remote employees in the company. At some point, I want to ask my boss about going remote. He seems to really like my work and I really enjoy my job. That being said, if he were to say "no," then I'm likely looking for a new job in order for us to move.

Here's the question: When do I ask my boss? If I ask soon, I could get a "yes" and we start the process of moving. I could also get a "no" and then I'm awkwardly looking for a new job but not really ready to leave my current one; and I will have created a weird dynamic between my boss and I. Or, do I put out feelers about a new job, and then ask about the remote thing so I've already got Plan B, C, and D no matter what his answer is.

I'll hang up and listen.
Just ask about the remote and see if he/she says yes. You don't have to let it be known that you will be moving on if he/she gives you a 'no' answer.

Of course eventually they will learn you are looking as prospective employers will be checking on work experience and references so it's only a matter of time before, yes, you will get to that awkward stage.
 
Dear CF,

I'm very proud of my 12 year-old daughter. She is a great student, is very caring and has a great sense of humor. I couldn't be prouder of the young woman she's becoming. She is also very skilled in soccer and video games. <chuckle> Sometimes she even beats me in both soccer and video games....it's uh.....it's becoming more and more common actually. The other day, I was playing video games with the little bugger and after she killed me for the 5th time in a row, she started laughing a little bit. Ok, a lot. Ah, ha ha. Yeah, that pretty funny. She then asked if I was playing with my eyes closed which was....yeah.

Anyway, CF, does anyone want to adopt a smart-assed little monster?

Signed
Defeated Dad
You have taught her to talk smack well - perhaps too well. Good luck.
 
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