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BoxsterCy said:
Old Man Sunday Bike Ride Report:

Distance: 32 miles

Temp: A sweet 85 degrees

Wildlife Sightings: Tom turkey at mile 0.6. Likely the same one that I have seen in my yard.

Hairiest Chest Award: Guy at mile 10 with his bike jersey unzipped. I imagine this is what Pants looks like in a bike jersey.

"Go Cyclones" Received: Three*

Ratio of passing to passed: Pretty damn good.
Best Smells: Lake Nokomis park & beach area smelled like "picnic". :smile:


* Was wearing Cyclone Cycling Jersey
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Good day Boxster! Heck I thought I did good w/ 24 and 4 big hills no walks of shame on hills but 1 stop and reset chain restarted in same spot so I consider that a success. 1 other bicyclist 6 cars until the 3rd hill than 6 more passed me going up that hill, nice thing was none of them did the lets see how close the passenger mirror can be to the bike.
Followed up w/more trap and finished the day with a picnic pretty darn nice day, legs are a little pink tonight though.
 
ImJustKCClone said:
That makes sense. I assumed the friends still lived in the town where the parents are.
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yeah if they were out of town I'd definitely do a card, just wasn't sure about them being so local. Almost seemed like a cop-out. The part I'm feeling weird about now is they've offered to help us move in two weekends (and were like call us and let us know specifics) but I don't want to impose plus both our moms are coming up to help. But also don't want him to feel like we excluded him if he would want to help. Cause I know sometimes when I'm really emotional about something it can feel good to throw yourself into something else even if just for a day. Think I'll just post on FB and be like we'll take any volunteers and provide you with pizza - it really shouldn't take us too long if DH and I get stuff moving the days leading up so then maybe it could be more of a "come move a couple things and then we give you pizza and an impromptu tour" That way anyone who wants to help can volunteer but if they'd rather not, they don't have to respond the way they would to an actually message or text.

yeah, I'm probably over thinking this but I don't want anyone to feel forced to help especially if they aren't comfortable with it anymore or not feeling up to it.
 
This is seriously crazy. I haven't even had that many drinks but I'm feeling the effects probably more than ever. I don't know what's going on.
 
cowgirl836 said:
yeah if they were out of town I'd definitely do a card, just wasn't sure about them being so local. Almost seemed like a cop-out. The part I'm feeling weird about now is they've offered to help us move in two weekends (and were like call us and let us know specifics) but I don't want to impose plus both our moms are coming up to help. But also don't want him to feel like we excluded him if he would want to help. Cause I know sometimes when I'm really emotional about something it can feel good to throw yourself into something else even if just for a day. Think I'll just post on FB and be like we'll take any volunteers and provide you with pizza - it really shouldn't take us too long if DH and I get stuff moving the days leading up so then maybe it could be more of a "come move a couple things and then we give you pizza and an impromptu tour" That way anyone who wants to help can volunteer but if they'd rather not, they don't have to respond the way they would to an actually message or text.

yeah, I'm probably over thinking this but I don't want anyone to feel forced to help especially if they aren't comfortable with it anymore or not feeling up to it.
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Yes.
 
cowgirl836 said:
yeah if they were out of town I'd definitely do a card, just wasn't sure about them being so local. Almost seemed like a cop-out. The part I'm feeling weird about now is they've offered to help us move in two weekends (and were like call us and let us know specifics) but I don't want to impose plus both our moms are coming up to help. But also don't want him to feel like we excluded him if he would want to help. Cause I know sometimes when I'm really emotional about something it can feel good to throw yourself into something else even if just for a day. Think I'll just post on FB and be like we'll take any volunteers and provide you with pizza - it really shouldn't take us too long if DH and I get stuff moving the days leading up so then maybe it could be more of a "come move a couple things and then we give you pizza and an impromptu tour" That way anyone who wants to help can volunteer but if they'd rather not, they don't have to respond the way they would to an actually message or text.

yeah, I'm probably over thinking this but I don't want anyone to feel forced to help especially if they aren't comfortable with it anymore or not feeling up to it.
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I'd bring them food in person once they're back...not having to do those 'chores' when dealing with something like this can be helpful...and then you can talk to them in person on the moving thing...I'd phrase it this way:

"I know you said you'd help, but our little moving deal is suddenly less important to me than how you're doing. If you don't feel up to it, we will have enough other help with our families, so don't feel like you're committed. However, if you think you'd like to get out and hang with us, you're more than welcome.
 
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CG I'm with KC card and memorial or plant. The food idea is excellent. It will be much appreciated by them. One suggestion if you can make it in something disposable so they don't have to worry about getting your dish back to you. Looks like to me your handling this growing up thing pretty darn well.
 
NWICY said:
CG I'm with KC card and memorial or plant. The food idea is excellent. It will be much appreciated by them. One suggestion if you can make it in something disposable so they don't have to worry about getting your dish back to you. Looks like to me your handling this growing up thing pretty darn well.
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I've learned the disposable part from taking food to new moms for much happier occasions so I do have that part!
 
NWICY said:
Good day Boxster! Heck I thought I did good w/ 24 and 4 big hills no walks of shame on hills but 1 stop and reset chain restarted in same spot so I consider that a success. 1 other bicyclist 6 cars until the 3rd hill than 6 more passed me going up that hill, nice thing was none of them did the lets see how close the passenger mirror can be to the bike.
Followed up w/more trap and finished the day with a picnic pretty darn nice day, legs are a little pink tonight though.
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I got some issues with da bike shifting into lower gears. It's rattling around or even skipping and bouncing two gears. Going to have to drop it off for a tuneup. No skills for me doing any of that stuff.

Iowa size rural long hills would kick my *** right now. I am in flat urban biking shape only.
 
00clone said:
I'd bring them food in person once they're back...not having to do those 'chores' when dealing with something like this can be helpful...and then you can talk to them in person on the moving thing...I'd phrase it this way:

"I know you said you'd help, but our little moving deal is suddenly less important to me than how you're doing. If you don't feel up to it, we will have enough other help with our families, so don't feel like you're committed. However, if you think you'd like to get out and hang with us, you're more than welcome.
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that is exactly the wording I needed. And I just realized that saying "let us know how we can help" is the thing you don't do. You're supposed to be like "do you like lasagna and when should we bring it" because people never want to ask for things even when you tell them to.
 
Watching rerun of LPGA. Open mics around Suzanne Pettersen are always problematic. The s word for crap is apparently one of her favs. She might want to swear at the ball in Norwegian.

She's one of my favs.

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cowgirl836 said:
I definitely got the message that they would appreciate friends driving down for it but it's pushing two hours in regular time and we'd be driving in rush hour. We were at the store tonight and debated on getting a card. Trying to decide if people our age still do that but a text doesn't seem like nearly enough. The friends themselves are local so I was thinking about taking food or something and talking to them in person vs a card.
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If your friends are local and the services are at a distance, it is OK to not make the trip. You should definitely send a handwritten card, and follow up with a call and/or visit to your friends house when they return, in order to give them support. My dad died last month and there were many cards from old friends who sent an appropriate memorial donation for the family to use as we wished. My mom was very moved by the outpouring of support, and more importantly, how people have continued to call and visit her in the weeks since. A card with heart felt words can be shared with his dad and siblings, a text message not as much.

If you worry about what to say, don't. It doesn't matter what you say. What counts is that you are available to them in support of what they are going through.
 
cowgirl836 said:
that is exactly the wording I needed. And I just realized that saying "let us know how we can help" is the thing you don't do. You're supposed to be like "do you like lasagna and when should we bring it" because people never want to ask for things even when you tell them to.
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The words...I's good with them. All those smart-arsed jokes I make? This is my version of 'use the force for good'.

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BoxsterCy said:
Dad bod training!
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Hopefully I can get home without the women throwing themselves at me.

Really, though, for the fact that I'm 5-11, 180...I can put away a surprising amount of food when it's available. At a friend's wedding, my other friends at the head table were probably 225, 225, 250, 350 ish, and then the bride's brother that was probably 200, but 200 of a bodybuilder. Someone said "hey, let's make sure no bowls get passed back to the other end of the table with food in them." My friends and I kind of shrugged and said "okay"...time to go to work. This wasn't an odd occurrence for us, the 350# guy once had to pay for 6 footlong subway subs because he challenged the 250# guy that he couldn't eat 6 feet of sub. Bride's brother was all "hah, that'd be totally cool, let's do it!!!!" At the end, I was the last one eating, and the bride's brother was sitting there with eyes like saucers going "I can't believe you're still eating", and then later on, he was even more amazed that I just got up from the table and started dancing. He couldn't move. Actually, at that time, I was probably closer to 165.
 
I weigh 167 pounds and I routinely outeat my two roommates who played college football and are 225+ pounds.
 
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