***Official Friday Confessions***

[Clones85']

Disagree.

I disagree as well.

I would rep all of you that disagree, because that is also my position. When I confront her, I don't want her to have anything to be ****** at me for. The only thing I want her to feel is shame and regret.

I'm sorry but what is there to disagree with? If you are married to someone than there are no secrets. How can you get mad at your spouse for reading your texts? If you do get mad, than maybe you are saying things you shouldn't say to people. My wife doesn't read my texts and I don't read hers, but I could not care less if she read them. I got nothing to hide and neither does she.

If your wife gets ****** at you b/c of HOW you caught her, don't let her go there. It really is that easy. "Sorry babe, but you aren't turning this around on me. You are the one that is in the wrong and now we need to talk." End of story.

 

[Rabbuk]

Some marriages have trust? I think there's a reasonable expectation of privacy even between married couples. I mean I feel like you should at least ask before reading them if you really must read their texts.

 

[Cyclonin]

I have a confession.

A couple weeks ago, I went to work with a couple co-workers. One being CRClone44. We went and ate Mexican here in CR. I had developed a liking to a certain entree called "Tacos Campechanos" which is basically a taco with chorizo and steak (and of course I ask for cheese, because I am an effin man).

I had ordered this pretty routinely at Mexican restaurants for about 3 months. This certain time we went, I downed 2 of the 3 tacos that are provided and immediately felt like my stomach would no longer contain my digested food and I would have the displeasure of tasting it again.

We went back to work and I slowly got better, thinking this was a fluke and I was still the BAMF I thought I was.

We went two weeks later and of course my co-workers reminded me of my aforementioned situation. Again, being the D-flopper I am, I ordered the same thing without flinching. One taco went down great, and you could say my tires were just getting warm. At that point, I felt I could down 5-6 without breaking a sweat.

Taco #2 goes down a little slower, no biggie. I start in on Taco #3 and the stomach starts churning again. I break out into a sweat and try to sprawl out over the booth. At this point, I am basically laying down.

Guess what? I am not a BAMF like I thought. I scurry to the bathroom and hurl all over. I somehow succeeded to not get any on my work clothes, so that was a plus. Needless to say, I haven't been back and my ultimate confession is:

I can't handle Tacos Campechanos like I used to be able to. I blame Mexican pink slime and my personal food storage unit.

 

[Cyclonin]

Another story:

Here at work, our company decided to cut down costs by having the service and maitenance staff (Read: Janitor) work starting around 11, so they save energy I assume.

On my floor, our wonderful (more about this later) lady tends to come around 12, which is prime lunch time at my desk. Yes, I eat at my desk because I can't handle some stuff anymore and its cheaper.

What she does is come around and grab your garbage out of the cubicle ( which is located far enough that she needs to come into the cubicle, creepy I know). Well our lady weighs a solid 3 bills, must chain smoke a pack before coming to our floor and sweats constantly. Her shirt is routinely covered in sweat, she pants, and again just reeks of BO and smoke. Did I mention this is during lunch time? If any of you want to lose weight, this is a fail-proof method of appetite loss. I have a taco in front of me that I am going to try and force down, but the smell lingers. Wish me luck.

 

[Hawkeye11en1]

I'm sorry but what is there to disagree with? If you are married to someone than there are no secrets. How can you get mad at your spouse for reading your texts? If you do get mad, than maybe you are saying things you shouldn't say to people. My wife doesn't read my texts and I don't read hers, but I could not care less if she read them. I got nothing to hide and neither does she.

If your wife gets ****** at you b/c of HOW you caught her, don't let her go there. It really is that easy. "Sorry babe, but you aren't turning this around on me. You are the one that is in the wrong and now we need to talk." End of story.

My point is why snoop on her stuff? It's not MY phone, its not MY email. Its HERS. I trust her. When I stop trusting her is when I start snooping. Just as this guy did. I get that there is nothing to hide, but when you are snooping and reading HER stuff then you know there is a trust issue. That's why I disagree with what you said.

 

[Clones85']

My point is why snoop on her stuff? It's not MY phone, its not MY email. Its HERS. I trust her. When I stop trusting her is when I start snooping. Just as this guy did. I get that there is nothing to hide, but when you are snooping and reading HER stuff then you know there is a trust issue. That's why I disagree with what you said.

Well snooping is wrong. I'm not talking about snooping. But if my wife picked up my phone right in front of me and started reading my texts it wouldn't bother me at all. I would think b/c she enjoys reading the banter back and forth between me and my buddies.

 

[Hawkeye11en1]

Well snooping is wrong. I'm not talking about snooping. But if my wife picked up my phone right in front of me and started reading my texts it wouldn't bother me at all. I would think b/c she enjoys reading the banter back and forth between me and my buddies.

Ok, well then we are probably just circling each other. She reads my banter as well, and I show her when I think she will find something funny anyway. Same page now, I believe.

 

[bringmagicback]

I have thought of that, which is why I haven't decided what the appropriate course of action is. I want to make sure I have my **** together when I bring it up, whichever way that may be.

I would have to say that she has a right to be upset that I was going through her stuff, but not nearly as much as I do that she is cavorting around with some DB from work.

How bout I solve this problem for you. Take her phone when shes in the shower, go to the contacts, add a contact with his name and your phone #, then write down his number and delete that contact. Best to do this over the wkend where they wont see each other. Then start texting her casually at first and after awhile bring it up a notch,after that ask to meet somewhere. If she says wtf no, then your good or if she comes to you and says this guy at work wants to meet wtf then your good. If she agrees to meet and then lies to you saying shes going out w/ friends or whatever then kill her.

Also, be careful reading texts, many times they will delete the bad ones but save the ones that you wouldnt be mad about, that way you know they talk to them but after reading you decide its harmless. Watch for descrepency in the times of texts sent or if texts dont make sense (because part of them are missing).

I manage several women and have done this more than once. The best part is if their like ummm why would we meet, then you can forget all about it! I think that sneakyness is the key to a good relationship.

 

[2ndCyCE]

Well snooping is wrong. I'm not talking about snooping. But if my wife picked up my phone right in front of me and started reading my texts it wouldn't bother me at all. I would think b/c she enjoys reading the banter back and forth between me and my buddies.

You don't have anything to hide, so it wouldn't bother you.

My wife obviously has something to hide, so she would be upset.

 

[bringmagicback]

How bout I solve this problem for you. Take her phone when shes in the shower, go to the contacts, add a contact with his name and your phone #, then write down his number and delete that contact. Best to do this over the wkend where they wont see each other. Then start texting her casually at first and after awhile bring it up a notch,after that ask to meet somewhere. If she says wtf no, then your good or if she comes to you and says this guy at work wants to meet wtf then your good. If she agrees to meet and then lies to you saying shes going out w/ friends or whatever then kill her.

Also, be careful reading texts, many times they will delete the bad ones but save the ones that you wouldnt be mad about, that way you know they talk to them but after reading you decide its harmless. Watch for descrepency in the times of texts sent or if texts dont make sense (because part of them are missing).

I manage several women and have done this more than once. The best part is if their like ummm why would we meet, then you can forget all about it! I think that sneakyness is the key to a good relationship.

also, if you ever get caught looking at there phone you need a go to move. This can be that you like a game she has on her phone so you were playing it or whatever. The one I use a lot is that I was trying to make her wallpaper picture a picture of us! Then she doesnt get defensive. If she catches you once then she will delete everything.

 

[ty4cy90]

I had a nightmare that CPR said he didn't want to coach the Cyclones anymore.... It was terrible.

 

[Hawkeye11en1]

How bout I solve this problem for you. Take her phone when shes in the shower, go to the contacts, add a contact with his name and your phone #, then write down his number and delete that contact. Best to do this over the wkend where they wont see each other. Then start texting her casually at first and after awhile bring it up a notch,after that ask to meet somewhere. If she says wtf no, then your good or if she comes to you and says this guy at work wants to meet wtf then your good. If she agrees to meet and then lies to you saying shes going out w/ friends or whatever then kill her.

Also, be careful reading texts, many times they will delete the bad ones but save the ones that you wouldnt be mad about, that way you know they talk to them but after reading you decide its harmless. Watch for descrepency in the times of texts sent or if texts dont make sense (because part of them are missing).

I manage several women and have done this more than once. The best part is if their like ummm why would we meet, then you can forget all about it! I think that sneakyness is the key to a good relationship.

And if she found out, which she probably will when she brings it up to the guy at work, she can never trust you again. Marriage ruined again.

BTW, do you put their number back in the phone if you find out there is nothing going on?

 

[4429 mcc]

How bout I solve this problem for you. Take her phone when shes in the shower, go to the contacts, add a contact with his name and your phone #, then write down his number and delete that contact. Best to do this over the wkend where they wont see each other. Then start texting her casually at first and after awhile bring it up a notch,after that ask to meet somewhere. If she says wtf no, then your good or if she comes to you and says this guy at work wants to meet wtf then your good. If she agrees to meet and then lies to you saying shes going out w/ friends or whatever then kill her.

Also, be careful reading texts, many times they will delete the bad ones but save the ones that you wouldnt be mad about, that way you know they talk to them but after reading you decide its harmless. Watch for descrepency in the times of texts sent or if texts dont make sense (because part of them are missing).

I manage several women and have done this more than once. The best part is if their like ummm why would we meet, then you can forget all about it! I think that sneakyness is the key to a good relationship.

I like how this guy thinks.

 

[2ndCyCE]

also, if you ever get caught looking at there phone you need a go to move. This can be that you like a game she has on her phone so you were playing it or whatever. The one I use a lot is that I was trying to make her wallpaper picture a picture of us! Then she doesnt get defensive. If she catches you once then she will delete everything.

I have thought about using my phone to take photos of her phone as proof of text volumes. Already I have saved incriminating emails of hers as screenshots on my phone, just in case.

Edit: I don't think I could get away with deleting him from her phone and adding him back in as myself. Based on the volume of texts, he would send her a message that would come across without showing his name as a contact. Busted.

 

[bringmagicback]

And if she found out, which she probably will when she brings it up to the guy at work, she can never trust you again. Marriage ruined again.

BTW, do you put their number back in the phone if you find out there is nothing going on?

Ya thats why you write the number down. She wont figure it out, even if she says to the guy at work whyd you want to meet up and hes like wtf? I never said that. She will be like ohhhh ok? She wont prob ever figure out that you made the switch, its to genius.

Also, if she would divorce you over a txt trick then f her.

 

[Hawkeye11en1]

You don't have anything to hide, so it wouldn't bother you.

My wife obviously has something to hide, so she would be upset.

While I do not know the details of the emails and such so maybe there is this emotional cheating going on, you don't know she is cheating yet. Be careful with how you go at her with this.

 

[isulive2train]

I confess that I want it to be 5 so I can go to the company happy hour. I need beer!

 

[Clones85']

You don't have anything to hide, so it wouldn't bother you.

My wife obviously has something to hide, so she would be upset.

IMO and this is strictly my opinion so I know it means little :smile: ......., but Who cares if she is upset? I wouldn't even go there with her if she tries to blame you for reading her texts. She is the one in the wrong for having inappropriate conversations with another man.

 

[Hawkeye11en1]

Ya thats why you write the number down. She wont figure it out, even if she says to the guy at work whyd you want to meet up and hes like wtf? I never said that. She will be like ohhhh ok? She wont prob ever figure out that you made the switch, its to genius.

Also, if she would divorce you over a txt trick then f her.

I'm just saying trust would be very hard after that.

 

[Rabbuk]

It seems like your marriage is flawed regardless, not to throw stones in glass houses or kick a man while he's down.