The more my friends keep popping out kids, the more ******** I hear about all the negatives. My wife and I are in our late 20’s and are eventually planning on starting a family, but everything I hear sounds terrible. For the parents on here, would you do it all again?
Serious question: Are kids worth it?
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My wife and I have decided we don't want to have kids. We'll be telling them tonight.
Totally worth it but I didn't have my first until I was 40. There is no way I could have handled it though or even wanted kids in my late 20s.
The first few months are rough as the baby has a crazy sleep schedule. My wife and I had to take shifts sleeping the first 3 or 4 months but it's alot easier after that.
The first few months are rough as the baby has a crazy sleep schedule. My wife and I had to take shifts sleeping the first 3 or 4 months but it's alot easier after that.
As long as you don’t need free time and fun in order to be happy...
Somedays you question if you should have but at the same time absolutely yes.
I suppose it depends on the type of person you are, but I would say having kids is the best thing that ever happened to me. You miss out on a few years of sleep, cut down on the F word by 90%, and eat a lot of shaped chicken nuggets, but it’s a pretty sweet gig!
Everyone says its different when they are your own. Plenty of people find other people's kids annoying.
All that being said, you don't have to have kids.
All that being said, you don't have to have kids.
I think having kids reminds me a bit of playing high school football.
It looks really cool/fun (pre-kids). Then you realize how much time/effort/emotion/work it takes to be successful (kids esp small kids and you're not sleeping much). If you put in the time and effort in, it often pays off at the end of the day/on the field (teens/early adult kids).
There are no guarantees and nothing is certain, but I'd say most folks are thankful for making the choice to have kid(s). We have a larger than average family and we get comments from older folks wishing they had more kids like us. That being said, that is much easier to say later in life than when you have little kids and are feeling overwhelmed.
Maybe not the best analogy, but it seemed like it is in the ballpark.
It looks really cool/fun (pre-kids). Then you realize how much time/effort/emotion/work it takes to be successful (kids esp small kids and you're not sleeping much). If you put in the time and effort in, it often pays off at the end of the day/on the field (teens/early adult kids).
There are no guarantees and nothing is certain, but I'd say most folks are thankful for making the choice to have kid(s). We have a larger than average family and we get comments from older folks wishing they had more kids like us. That being said, that is much easier to say later in life than when you have little kids and are feeling overwhelmed.
Maybe not the best analogy, but it seemed like it is in the ballpark.
late 20's here. just had our first about 6 months ago. its certainly something. love my kid but it completely changes everything about your life and your relationship with partner. I would be ok with only having one but i fear i will be out voted on that. ha
I had kids at 22 and it was tough, but I wouldn't have changed a thing.
Speak for yourself!
My kid drives me effing nuts as do both of my dogs and I wouldn't trade any of them for anything.
Yes, I'd do it again in a heartbeat. We spent several years just being married without kids which was great to build a solid foundation without being tied down.
Having a kid changes everything of course, but I have no regrets and feel like I get much more enjoyment out of being a parent than the amount of work I put in (which is still a lot). I also find that the folks who constantly complain about the inconveniences/challenges also complain about most other things in their lives, so consider the source before letting it scare you away.
Having a kid changes everything of course, but I have no regrets and feel like I get much more enjoyment out of being a parent than the amount of work I put in (which is still a lot). I also find that the folks who constantly complain about the inconveniences/challenges also complain about most other things in their lives, so consider the source before letting it scare you away.
Yes and no
Yes it how they change your life.
F no in terms of anything financially. Daycare was damn near double our mortgage. Once he hit kinder I felt rich!
Yes it how they change your life.
F no in terms of anything financially. Daycare was damn near double our mortgage. Once he hit kinder I felt rich!
