Random Thoughts 18: The Year of Fire

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Lew, the man whose short-term memory has weakened a bit post-stroke. :(

I can't tell him more than two things at a time, so I do a LOT of reminding...
As far as I know, I have never had a stroke, but I still get a lot of reminding from Mrs. Velo. But I'm still the only one of us to can seem to remember how old I am, how old she is, and how many years we have been married. :D
 

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My mom thinks my dad has dementia or Alzheimer's setting in some. I don't necessarily disagree but I also think she gets worked up quick about having to say things multiple times etc.
 

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My mom thinks my dad has dementia or Alzheimer's setting in some. I don't necessarily disagree but I also think she gets worked up quick about having to say things multiple times etc.
Sometimes it can also be hearing loss. There are a lot of people who start to have hearing loss and instead of getting it dealt with will just try to cope. Many will stop asking "What?" and just ignore it if they can't hear what is said.

I know with my moderate hearing loss I will ask what? once, maybe twice and if I don't think what was said was earth shatteringly important will just move on if I still didn't hear it.

Yeah, I know, I should probably look into it. The last time I asked a physician about it all he did was rub two fingers together near my ear and say, "Can you hear that?" "Yes." "You're fine." That doesn't address the problem I have with intelligibility, but whatever, Doc. I'm pretty sure most of my loss is in the higher frequencies and that isn't what that country doc test detects.
 
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My mom thinks my dad has dementia or Alzheimer's setting in some. I don't necessarily disagree but I also think she gets worked up quick about having to say things multiple times etc.
Not all memory loss is a result of dementia or Alzheimer's. Almost all of my senior friends are more forgetful than they used to be...and that includes me. It's just a product of aging, fewer synapses moving slower in the brain...
 

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Sometimes it can also be hearing loss. There are a lot of people who start to have hearing loss and instead of getting it dealt with will just try to cope. Many will stop asking "What?" and just ignore it if they can't hear what is said.

I know with my moderate hearing loss I will ask what? once, maybe twice and if I don't think what was said was earth shatteringly important will just move on if I still didn't hear it.

Yeah, I know, I should probably look into it. The last time I asked a physician about it all he did was rub two fingers together near my ear and say, "Can you hear that?" "Yes." "You're fine." That doesn't address the problem I have with intelligibility, but whatever, Doc. I'm pretty sure most of my loss is in the higher frequencies and that isn't what that country doc test detects.
I'm getting a full hearing exam in early December...mostly to shut Lew up. He maintains that I'm half-deaf because I always say "what". I do have some hearing loss (based on a similar exam about 15 years ago). My problem is that I can hear high-pitched noises like a telephone ringing at the other end of the hall at work, but I have a harder time hearing low-pitched noises...and in a crowded situation with a lot of ambient noise, all bets are off.

Here's the deal, though: a) he mutters b) he never looks to see if he has my attention, and c) he has a low tone voice that is fairly quiet and often talks to me from another room.

So, we'll see what the doc has to say. If I'm right, Lew promises to make an effort to quit blaming me when I don't hear what he says. Heh...we'll see how long THAT lasts! :D
 
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I'm getting a full hearing exam in early December...mostly to shut Lew up. He maintains that I'm half-deaf because I always say "what". I do have some hearing loss (based on a similar exam about 15 years ago). My problem is that I can hear high-pitched noises like a telephone ringing at the other end of the hall at work, but I have a harder time hearing low-pitched noises...and in a crowded situation with a lot of ambient noise, all bets are off.

Here's the deal, though: a) he mutters b) he never looks to see if he has my attention, and c) he has a low tone voice that is fairly quiet and often talks to me from another room.

So, we'll see what the doc has to say. If I'm right, Lew promises to make an effort to quit blaming me when I don't hear what he says. Heh...we'll see how long THAT lasts! :D
How interactions with Mrs. Velo often go. Written as what I hear.

MV - Hey, Velo, did you hear about the thing? !#%#%^&7 &$%^#@#$

V - What?

MV - I said did you hear about the thing?
!@##% #$%^ #$%^&&#$%&(

V - I'm sorry, what?

MV - I SAID DID YOU HEAR ABOUT THE THING!!!!

She generally starts off strong and trails off. When I indicate I didn't hear she does exactly the same thing or just repeats the part I heard. She then gets mad when I tell her she didn't get any louder with the part that trailed off and I couldn't hear.

I've started using this line after these interactions:

z7dLF-.gif
 

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How interactions with Mrs. Velo often go. Written as what I hear.

MV - Hey, Velo, did you hear about the thing? !#%#%^&7 &$%^#@#$

V - What?

MV - I said did you hear about the thing?
!@##% #$%^ #$%^&&#$%&(

V - I'm sorry, what?

MV - I SAID DID YOU HEAR ABOUT THE THING!!!!

She generally starts off strong and trails off. When I indicate I didn't hear she does exactly the same thing or just repeats the part I heard. She then gets mad when I tell her she didn't get any louder with the part that trailed off and I couldn't hear.

I've started using this line after these interactions:

z7dLF-.gif
I can identify! That's OUR conversations in a nutshell.
 

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I'm getting a full hearing exam in early December...mostly to shut Lew up. He maintains that I'm half-deaf because I always say "what". I do have some hearing loss (based on a similar exam about 15 years ago). My problem is that I can hear high-pitched noises like a telephone ringing at the other end of the hall at work, but I have a harder time hearing low-pitched noises...and in a crowded situation with a lot of ambient noise, all bets are off.

Here's the deal, though: a) he mutters b) he never looks to see if he has my attention, and c) he has a low tone voice that is fairly quiet and often talks to me from another room.

So, we'll see what the doc has to say. If I'm right, Lew promises to make an effort to quit blaming me when I don't hear what he says. Heh...we'll see how long THAT lasts! :D
The typical wife approach, it’s him and not me. ;).
 
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The hearing loss discussion is interesting. I am pretty fortunate my "sensors" still work pretty well. I do notice it when I am around my old people peers. They have the TV sound turned up way too high for my tastes. I was constantly turning the sound down at my sister's house. When they give me the elder "Can you hear this tone" test I know they are expecting "No" but get "Yes". I do have trouble with conversations in noisy bars but I've always had that. Think that's a "software" issue and not a hardware issue.
 
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The hearing loss discussion is interesting. I am pretty fortunate my "sensors" still work pretty well. I do notice it when I am around my old people peers. They have the TV sound turned up way too high for my tastes. I was constantly turning the sound down at my sister's house. When they give me the elder "Can you hear this tone" test I know they are expecting "No" but get "Yes". I do have trouble with conversations in noisy bars but I've always had that. Think that's a "software" issue and not a hardware issue.
They never play a tone for those. They want you to think you can’t hear. If you’re hearing stuff, you may want to check them checked. :).
 

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The hearing loss discussion is interesting. I am pretty fortunate my "sensors" still work pretty well. I do notice it when I am around my old people peers. They have the TV sound turned up way too high for my tastes. I was constantly turning the sound down at my sister's house. When they give me the elder "Can you hear this tone" test I know they are expecting "No" but get "Yes". I do have trouble with conversations in noisy bars but I've always had that. Think that's a "software" issue and not a hardware issue.
I attribute my hearing loss mainly to two things:
  • Driving crap cars for decades with no A/C. I would drive hours on end at highway speeds with my window down. Prolonged wind noise can result in substantial hearing loss at select frequencies.
  • Working in sports and concert environments. I was somewhat irregular at wearing hearing protection trying to still be able to hear on a headset or radio. I learned some techniques (like wearing ear plugs then putting on the headset with the volume raised. Blocks out ambient noise but you can still hear on the headset.) but many probably came too late.
 

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New pet peeve people who listen to a podcast in public spaces (hotel breakfast area.) With no ear buds so we all get to hear. Sigh.

At times I've considered buying a bunch of cheap ear buds to hand out to anyone that does this.

It's either that or I go grab their device and smash it.
 
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Work gripe:

I have a co-worker that likes to walk up to my desk and stand there, regardless of how busy I am, until I attend to his question. I can be on the phone, typing frantically, and rifling through papers. He just stands there and stares.

Like most people, some issues of mine require time and attention and aren't necessarily resolved quickly. Regardless, he'll stand there and just stare at me while I'm trying to get a situation handled, taking zero social cues that I'm really busy at the moment.

Realizing that he's not going to go anywhere and getting tired of him staring and mouth-breathing, I'll look up at him to acknowledge his presence with a clear "go ahead but please be quick" look when I address him. Instead of trying to be succinct, he has to stammer around, say "I've got a question for you" followed by "I might know the answer to it" or "I'm not sure if you know the answer" or some other hem-hawing Hugh Grant in a 90's rom-com ramble before I have to interject with a much more stern "What do you need" to jar the broken record and get him back on track.

He's a nice guy and I've been able to keep my composure, but it's grating on me. And it's not like he doesn't DM or E-mail me and get quick responses.

I've always been taught that violence is not the answer, but I feel like it could still be very satisfying.
 
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