They serve one purpose and one purpose only (sorry ladies) ........ they serve to tone down the "we need to move this relationship to the next level" pressure that is put on men when they are not ready, too young, or never plan to get engaged.
Promise Rings
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Well I am committed to promising to make a commitment to you sometime in the future.
Yeah I got one for my gf in high school before we went to different colleges. Apparently the old mantra that 'rings don't plug holes' is true, so we didn't make it to marriage...
Thank the lord.
Totally lame. Your engagement ring is your promise ring. Duh. What's next, a promise to promise you ring?
I have never understood the point in promise rings. S*** or get off the pot and give the real deal. So then what do u do when you ask her to marry you? Take it off and give it to her again? Probably not, you will have to go buy another ring. Pretty much a waste of money in my book.
The ring tech may not keep someone together, but its a object symbolizing the promise two people are making to each other. It could be anything, your friends boyfriend chose a ring that his girlfriend happens to like. I say good for them. Anything showing commitment from anybody is okay in my book. I respect them for still believing in that kind of stuff.
It is no more or no less significant then any other ring given to another one. Can things change in this relationship that make them break up or grow apart? Yes. Can that still happen if they get engaged or married? YES. Happens all the time.
The ring is a start, and a sweet gesture, if they like then fantastic. The rest takes real commitment, confidence and belief in ones self and another.
To me if your in any relationship there is a commitment to be faithful to one another, thats what the promise ring symbolizes... again its just a symbol that these two are saying they will remain faithful to one another as long as they are in a relationship.
It is no more or no less significant then any other ring given to another one. Can things change in this relationship that make them break up or grow apart? Yes. Can that still happen if they get engaged or married? YES. Happens all the time.
The ring is a start, and a sweet gesture, if they like then fantastic. The rest takes real commitment, confidence and belief in ones self and another.
To me if your in any relationship there is a commitment to be faithful to one another, thats what the promise ring symbolizes... again its just a symbol that these two are saying they will remain faithful to one another as long as they are in a relationship.
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People still do this? Yikes. When the time comes, my girl will only be getting one ring. Not two.
I agree with this. Not to sound too disrespectful and all to the original post, but this reminds me of the scene in 40 Year Old Virgin when "Andy" is getting crap about riding his bike to the store from his co-workers. Seth Rogen's character says it's ok to ride a bike, "yeah when you are ******* six." Same thing with a promise ring. I do like riding bikes, bikes, bi bicycles though.:smile:
Commitment? This is like, instead of promising to give someone a cut of your millions won in the lottery (engagement), promising to buy lotto tickets.
IMO, if you're ready to buy a promise ring, you should be ready to buy an engagement ring. Anything less than that is ridiculous, IMO.
Okay, there are a lot of "ridiculous" things each one of you do weekly, I'm sure of it. Like comparing marriage to a sum of money. Yet still you do them. So you are saying that if you are ready to be a committed relationship that you should be ready to get married? Id say the promise ring is nothing more then a way to say hey I like or love you and please don't sleep with anyone else. They choose to show people that through a ring, again if the girl likes it that received it, then I'd say he made a smart move regardless of what happens or the motives.
Again lame or not lame, I don't care. What I can appreciate is a nice gesture between two people that happen to like the said gesture toward each other. Romance or Love or Kindness, o no, its awful, and geeky, and lame... Fantastic. Ive witnessed plenty of things in college to realize that a promise ring is the least offensive, troublesome thing by far.
Now should and can his friends give him **** about it? Yes. Should he care? No
Id have more of a problem with a 14 year old boy buying my 14 year old daughter one. At least they are not 14, but that isn't a probably really with the ring, but more the fact they are 14, and the intentions then behind it a young age. Id prefer them to be in college and play house then be in high school or younger. anyway... peace out, who cares.
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I bought my current wife a few rings over the years before we got married as gifts. Never thought of any as "promise rings". She loved sapphires and back then, natural sapphires were fairly inexpensive. I think I bought her 3 rings and all have substantially increased in value. I actually think we came out pretty well. Now, if I can just convince her to sell them...
Spending around $100 on one, sure...some people do it because they cant afford an engagement ring at the moment, I get that. But spending a consider amount of money on one is incredibly stupid.
Sure, I've done ridiculous things. I've worn cold gear tights for entire baseball seasons because the first time I wore them out of necessity, I went 3-for-4 and therefore kept wearing them. But I wasn't dropping 100 bucks or more to do those ridiculous things.
There are simpler ways to say you love someone. Like saying you love someone. People are free to do what they want, and if they like it, fine. But I'm not going to buy a ring every time I get into a serious relationship, just to signify that I'm in a serious relationship.
