CycloneErik
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I was a white kid from the DSM western suburbs and I wouldn’t even stop in colo if I needed gas let alone live there.
I've lived there. It's not easy.
I was a white kid from the DSM western suburbs and I wouldn’t even stop in colo if I needed gas let alone live there.
Yeah, that's different. I first read that as Colorado.Replying to the longer post: A Japanese boy was placed in Colo, IA?
I could see that going poorly. In fact, I can't see it going any other way.
I've lived there. It's not easy.
I’ve heard horror stories of their fans and students following, harassing, and throwing rocks at opposing teams busses after losses in every sport.
As for tips - We have had three students; two German boys and one Norwegian girl - plus the Japanese boy who had no pre-arranged host (he ended up with a family in Colo that didn't work out, then went to another family where he was very happy).
It happens. Family emergencies. Diagnosed with cancer, any number of things.
wife leaves
Our hostings were before the internet and smart phones. We let them make a call to let their parents know they had arrived, and a couple of them had pre-arranged calls from their parents on Sunday afternoons - those dwindled to once a month or so once the kids got more acclimated. For their birthdays and for Christmas, we gave each of them a call home.I was an exchange student and our family has hosted 6 students. Our kids are grown now and we don’t want to be tied down but I really miss hosting. It is a wonderful lifelong experience. We visited one of our “daughters” this summer and one last summer. Here’s a bit of advice:
Be flexible. They lived differently, maybe a lot, depending on where they are from.
I treated them like my own child, no better, no worse. I did everyone’s laundry, I did their’s too. If you’re high school daughter does her own laundry, your student can too.
I required they be in at least one school activity each semester. It’s how they make friends. Making friends takes awhile. Be patient. I suggested to them to reach out to kids they meet and invite themselves. A simple “can I join you tonight?” Kids don’t always think about how hard it is to be included.
Don’t put too much pressure on your daughter to be her social outlet. Hopefully it works, but it may not.
Communicate. A lot. Tell her to let you know when something isn’t working and you need to do the same. Don’t think an issue is going to just disappear. It just festers until a small issue becomes a big one.
Smart phones. If she is communicating with her home friends and family a lot, talk to her about it. It is hard to be 100% living and participating here when her brain is regularly communicating with home. I think it’s the toughest part today with students.
Enjoy. Embrace all of it. Hosting made us better parents because we did far more family activities and trips, even just Saturday day trips nearby. We spent many more hours sitting around the dinner table eating and talking instead of everyone grabbing food on the run around busy schedules.
Wish I was hosting.
There was one in my high school that changed families mid year because they couldn’t get along.
Never had one but a guy in a town in my area hosted one and then divorced his wife and married the FES.
Never had one but a guy in a town in my area hosted one and then divorced his wife and married the FES.