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    In loving memory of.....

    I see those signs more And more, it makes me wonder why people want to advertise someone that no one else knows. Can someone explain why people do this? It seems that if you do not know the person, (kinda of cold here) so what? PLEASE CLARIFY THE REASON FOR THIS


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    Re: In loving memory of.....

    Grief perhaps. Compassion would be a response.



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    Re: In loving memory of.....

    I don't get it either.



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    Re: In loving memory of.....

    I don't know either, but I'm all for whatever makes someone feel good in that situation. Who am I to judge?



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    Re: In loving memory of.....

    Where are you seeing these signs?

    My experience with messages like this largely links with my marathon experiences, where many runners will motivate themselves and dedicate themselves to a sick or deceased family member. Tshirts and body markings are common reminders and devotionals. I would recommend running a marathon to anyone...or simply attend one and maybe cheer on "somebody noone else knows". It is an emotional experience....even cheering runners on.



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    Re: In loving memory of.....

    Quote Originally Posted by Shinyhappyclone View Post
    Where are you seeing these signs?
    I see these constantly on the rear window of vehicles.



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    Re: In loving memory of.....

    I don't know never really thought about it.



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    Re: In loving memory of.....

    I see them all over the back windows of vehicles. I imagine it's a token of remembrance, and while I probably would not choose to grieve/cope that way, I certainly do not blame others for doing so. If it helps them, that's great.



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    Re: In loving memory of.....

    Not that I really want to tick people off, but I suspect that a certain percent of motivation for doing this is to make oneself feel "special" through demonstrating that they are suffering.

    In my high school we had a rather high mortality rate among boys, mainly due to farm accidents, and immediately after a death, a certain percentage of the girls would all of a sudden develop romantic ties to the dead guy, or enlarge the romantic tie that was there. They would sometimes even have conflict over who was suffering the most. As if suffering was a zero-sum game.

    Everyone wants to be noticed, and to feel special. This public expression is another way of doing that, I think. Frankly, I feel the temptation from time to time myself.

    Of course, my new superpower of cynicism may just be shining through instead.... Okay, I admit. I am Cynical-Man(tm)


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    Re: In loving memory of.....

    Quote Originally Posted by Phaedrus View Post
    Not that I really want to tick people off, but I suspect that a certain percent of motivation for doing this is to make oneself feel "special" through demonstrating that they are suffering.

    In my high school we had a rather high mortality rate among boys, mainly due to farm accidents, and immediately after a death, a certain percentage of the girls would all of a sudden develop romantic ties to the dead guy, or enlarge the romantic tie that was there. They would sometimes even have conflict over who was suffering the most. As if suffering was a zero-sum game.

    Everyone wants to be noticed, and to feel special. This public expression is another way of doing that, I think. Frankly, I feel the temptation from time to time myself.

    Of course, my new superpower of cynicism may just be shining through instead.... Okay, I admit. I am Cynical-Man(tm)
    I can only speculate, but it could be to atone for not being as good a friend and/or relative as one felt they could have been, or for not being there for that person during their time of need as much as they felt they could've/should've been. Guilt is a very strong emotion and it drives people to great lengths to free themselves of it.



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    Re: In loving memory of.....

    What I don't get is what they are dedicating to them. "In memory of" makes me think that the car is in memory of that person. Something has to be in memory of that person. Is it the sticker on the car or he actual car. I dont get it at all. It's almost like people do it to maybe strike up a conversation about someone that died.



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    Re: In loving memory of.....

    Quote Originally Posted by isunorth View Post
    I don't know either, but I'm all for whatever makes someone feel good in that situation. Who am I to judge?
    You're on a message board....it's your duty to judge.


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    Re: In loving memory of.....

    I would venture to say it was a goofy marketing gimmick by somebody that took off a little bit better then expected. Seems silly to me.



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    Re: In loving memory of.....

    Alot of times a parent, child or close friend has dozens of the stickers printed up and hands them out. I would guess alot of people are guilted into putting them on their vehicles for that reason alone.

    Not my thing, I even pull off the dealer stickers until they start sending me a sponsorship check. Seems a bit unsightly to me, but i suppose it's not any worse than seeing people who still have "Kerry/Edwards" stickers, "Stop tailgating me or I'll flick a booger on your windshield" or the pure class that is; "If you're going to ride my ***, at least pull my hair". I see that one daily outside of my son's daycare, I hope she realizes that little girl is only 2-3 years from being able to read.....



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    Re: In loving memory of.....

    Quote Originally Posted by Phaedrus View Post
    Not that I really want to tick people off, but I suspect that a certain percent of motivation for doing this is to make oneself feel "special" through demonstrating that they are suffering.

    In my high school we had a rather high mortality rate among boys, mainly due to farm accidents, and immediately after a death, a certain percentage of the girls would all of a sudden develop romantic ties to the dead guy, or enlarge the romantic tie that was there. They would sometimes even have conflict over who was suffering the most. As if suffering was a zero-sum game.

    Everyone wants to be noticed, and to feel special. This public expression is another way of doing that, I think. Frankly, I feel the temptation from time to time myself.

    Of course, my new superpower of cynicism may just be shining through instead.... Okay, I admit. I am Cynical-Man(tm)
    are you wearing a beret in your picture,.... or is that a fancy new hair doo?



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