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    Frat vs. Dorms

    My son was recruited by a fraternity last night. He has to make his mind up by August 1st. Need some positives and negatives on both. PM me if you don't want to start a war over my concerns. He is a freshman this fall.


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    Re: Frat vs. Dorms

    Frats cost more but, your son will likely have more encouragement to get better grades, get involved in extra activities, etc. You get none of that in dorms. Also, in a lot of cases you will have stronger network of relationships after college.

    This is coming from someone who hated frats in college.

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    Re: Frat vs. Dorms

    This will go well.....



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    Re: Frat vs. Dorms

    Is this a serious question? just kidding.


    From what I know: I did the dorms freshman year and absolutely loved it. My buddies were in a frat, and they seemed to enjoy it, however there were many times they couldn't get together and hang out or have free time due to frat obligations.


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    Re: Frat vs. Dorms

    The yearly dorms v frats thread. Better grab some popcorn.



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    Re: Frat vs. Dorms

    I'm 31 and attending my first semester at ISU this fall. Should I leave the wife and kid for a frat?



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    Re: Frat vs. Dorms

    I lived in the dorms, and I really thrived with the individual freedom you were allowed. I got rough grades my first semester, and I learned, on my own, that I needed to improve to get where I wanted. So I did.

    I'm a pretty independent individual, and the amount of external commitments, and planned social activities of fraternity life just weren't for me.

    That said, in hindsight, I see value in the Greek system. I have some good friends who were part of it, and I can see how they benefited by having that increased structure and the opportunities that come with it. I think it comes down to whether you're more comfortable setting your own agenda, or working within the structure of an organization. We gave frats a lot of **** about "buying friends" and basically arranging sex without having to demonstrate male competence, but aside from all the bull ****, I think they serve a purpose, and I know a lot of good dudes who came through that system.


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    Re: Frat vs. Dorms

    I have never heard anybody say they disliked their choice of going with a frat or living in a dorm/apartment. Everybody seems very happy with the choice they made. So maybe both are good options?

    And to the question of leaving the family for a frat. I would see if you can swing living with the family Sunday through Thursday afternoon and the frat the rest of the time.


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    Re: Frat vs. Dorms

    Quote Originally Posted by Al_4_State View Post
    I lived in the dorms, and I really thrived with the individual freedom you were allowed. I got rough grades my first semester, and I learned, on my own, that I needed to improve to get where I wanted. So I did.

    I'm a pretty independent individual, and the amount of external commitments, and planned social activities of fraternity life just weren't for me.

    That said, in hindsight, I see value in the Greek system. I have some good friends who were part of it, and I can see how they benefited by having that increased structure and the opportunities that come with it. I think it comes down to whether you're more comfortable setting your own agenda, or working within the structure of an organization. We gave frats a lot of **** about "buying friends" and basically arranging sex without having to demonstrate male competence, but aside from all the bull ****, I think they serve a purpose, and I know a lot of good dudes who came through that system.
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    Re: Frat vs. Dorms

    Quote Originally Posted by Stewo View Post
    I'm 31 and attending my first semester at ISU this fall. Should I leave the wife and kid for a frat?



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    Re: Frat vs. Dorms

    Quote Originally Posted by Stewo View Post
    I'm 31 and attending my first semester at ISU this fall. Should I leave the wife and kid for a frat?
    Do you think I like avoiding my wife and kids to hang out with 19 year old girls all day?


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    Re: Frat vs. Dorms

    Quote Originally Posted by snowcraig2.0 View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by mj4cy View Post
    Do you think I like avoiding my wife and kids to hang out with 19 year old girls all day?
    Nailed it. Both of you.



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    Re: Frat vs. Dorms

    I was in a fraternity. It was great for me personally because it gave me an immediate group of 50 guys or so that I knew on campus. I might not have made those connections as easily if I were living in the dorms. There were some time commitments but as someone else pointed out we also had a scholarship chair who helped encouraged the young guys to study/get good grades etc. And 25 years later I still play golf every week with a guy I met my first day at the house (he was drinking beer out of his shoe -- what wasn't to like?)

    It also provided some leadership opportunities both at the house and on campus.

    My son is going to be a senior in high school this year and while I won't push him one way or another (dorm vs. fraternity) I will not be disappointed if he chooses to go the Greek route.



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    Re: Frat vs. Dorms

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    Re: Frat vs. Dorms

    My buddy and I used to 'pretend' we were interested in joining, so we'd get to hit up all the different parties. Then we turned 21, and didn't need them anymore.



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