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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by cyrocksmypants View Post
    I used to kill homeless people and strippers all the time, but I don't tell someone that right when we start dating. Unless it's a stripper. They still won't care anyway, as long as you're paying.

    That you, Craig James?


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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by cyrocksmypants View Post
    I used to kill homeless people and strippers all the time, but I don't tell someone that right when we start dating. Unless it's a stripper. They still won't care anyway, as long as you're paying.

    I knew you were weird. I'm not coming to HI anymore.


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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    Sounds like you have your answer. I have some things I don't tell people I am dating until it is to a certain point in the relationship. I bet she feels like she wants to take a step further with you and that's why she told you.

    Also, you can't take any advice on the internet though. According to Cyphillis and CycloneErik. So ignore everything in here



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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by cowgirl836 View Post
    I knew you were weird. I'm not coming to HI anymore.
    See! Miss Judgypants here shows why you don't just offer the information up right away!



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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    Now, it is your turn. Have you told her about your CF habit? It is probably more addicting than her drugs were. And probably causes more brain damage!



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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by cyrocksmypants View Post
    I used to kill homeless people and strippers all the time, but I don't tell someone that right when we start dating. Unless it's a stripper. They still won't care anyway, as long as you're paying.
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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by GoSTATE71 View Post
    Hey all,

    Just wondering if anyone could shed some wisdom and advice on a dating situation I'm currently in. Basically, I've been seeing this girl seriously for close to a year now and she recently informed me that she used to have a serious drug problem but has since been clean for 4 years, and she has a masters in nursing now, works hard and from what I can tell, is a completely different person. Our relationship is fantastic, loving and a ton of fun and we get along great and have had no major arguments or fights to date. Now, what bugs me is that it took awhile for her to tell me. When I asked why she never told me she admitted that it was a long time ago and thought that I might judge her harshly for it or think differently of her and was scared it might mess up our relationship. We have since talked about it and I do feel somewhat better but is this a red flag I'm being oblivious to? Like I said, its been a great relationship but its starting to get more serious now and I just thought I'd get some advice before it goes further. Thanks!
    How recently did she tell you this? If she's a great gal, and everything is pushing you toward her, I'm guessing you'll bet used to this fact eventually. I'm betting you just need some time to wrap your mind around it.



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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    Wow, CF is really lame during the summer. Don't you think this question is better suited for your close friends and family?



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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    Her problems are in the past. She has moved on and has her Masters in Nursing. You said she is great. IMO, the fact that she told you of her past means that she wants to make the next step. Now it is your turn. Do you love her? If you do, then don't worry about her past, since it was a long time ago and she has proven herself.

    At what point do we allow people the opportunity to turn their lives around. Or does past mistakes mark them forever.

    Are you planning on telling her that you went to a message board to get advice on whether you should continue your relationship with her? If not, then you are not being totally honest with her. Sounds to me like you are lucky to have her.



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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by Cybyassociation View Post
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    It probably took her awhile to tell you because its a pretty serious issue and was probably a major part of her life. Sounds like she's gotten herself cleaned up and built up the trust in your relationship to finally tell you. I think you are taking this the wrong way. You should be proud of her for telling you, not second guessing.
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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by crawfy54 View Post
    Wow, CF is really lame during the summer. Don't you think this question is better suited for your close friends and family?
    He doesn't want to tell them



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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by Stormin View Post
    Are you planning on telling her that you went to a message board to get advice on whether you should continue your relationship with her? If not, then you are not being totally honest with her. Sounds to me like you are lucky to have her.
    This. She was so open and honest with you, I think you owe her the same. Show her this thread and then tell us what happens next...


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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by crawfy54 View Post
    Wow, CF is really lame during the summer. Don't you think this question is better suited for your close friends and family?
    What's even more lame are the people who come into threads and post how lame the thread is.

    To the OP, it took guts for her to tell you. Appreciate that. You even said yourself how you don't have any experience with these issues so you really don't understand her thought process. Most likely she's wanted to tell you for a long time but didn't know how.



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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    She's being honest with you. Have to respect that. Did you expect her to tell you all her secrets on your first date?

    She sounds like a great person to me. Everybody has made some mistakes and she is entitled too as well.



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    Re: Need some advice on a relationship

    I would take a hard pass. She sounds like a quitter.


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