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    Re: Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

    Quote Originally Posted by CYphyllis View Post
    Do you understand the difference between good information and the **** you get from the internet? If you don't, then I feel sorry for you.
    Quote Originally Posted by CycloneErik View Post
    Factor in the anonymity involved, too, where we can just provide anything and pretend it's advice.

    To pile on, volume of information doesn't equate to quality. I feel sorry for people that can't figure that out.
    Then why the hell are you on the internet then? Why even bother? You always have to sort through good and bad information no matter where you get it from.


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    Re: Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

    Quote Originally Posted by TXCyclones View Post
    Everyone who meets her for the first time thinks she's great. She's bubbly and energetic and very nice... to everyone else. I get the leftovers, the gossip, the nagging, etc. We've done counseling 9 years ago when we were in crisis and she stopped going because she decided she was out of crisis, and chose not to work on other personal issues that lead us there. She's saying she wants to go to counseling now, but I don't - I'm done. Just curious if others here have gone through it. A bit worried about the "next step".
    Personally, if she wants to go to counseling, I would do it, in part so you don't have "what ifs" to worry about. You could make it clear up front that you are at the point of wanting a divorce, but want to work it out (if you at all do). You've clearly been married a while, so this isn't the kind of thing that just suddenly disappears if you want out, especially if you have kids.

    You obviously are approaching this fairly seriously, and have had enough, but I'd see what counseling does. You have nothing to lose if you go, but possibly a lot to gain. If that doesn't help, you are going to get a divorce, which you wanted anyway.



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    Re: Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

    Quote Originally Posted by CycloneErik View Post
    Factor in the anonymity involved, too, where we can just provide anything and pretend it's advice.

    To pile on, volume of information doesn't equate to quality. I feel sorry for people that can't figure that out.
    I'm sorry, but this is the internet, and therefore I cannot take your advice.



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    Re: Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

    Quote Originally Posted by ISUCyclones2015 View Post
    Then why the hell are you on the internet then? Why even bother? You always have to sort through good and bad information no matter where you get it from.
    The internet serves certain purposes, this is not one of those purposes. It's not that difficult to understand. The next time you find yourself in a situation follow this basic rule:

    You need tips on basic day to day activities? Go to the internet.

    You need help with an issue of a personal nature? Find a damn friend.



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    Re: Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

    Quote Originally Posted by ISUCyclones2015 View Post
    Why not? The internet is the greatest invention of all time. It is the only thing EVER created where you can instantly connect with MILLIONS of people from all walks of life, background, race, and countries in one place. Where are you going to get that type of information from just one person? NO WHERE but the internet.

    In 2014 alone there will be an INCREASE of information of 200 exabytes over 2013. To put that in perspective that is more than all data that there was in 2010 available on the internet. In 2015 estimates are near 500 exabytes. 1 exabyte is over a BILLION gigabytes. It is estimated that the human brain is only roughly 1 terabyte large (1000 gigabytes). The internet just added a terabyte in the ten seconds it took me to write this sentence.

    So if you don't go to the internet for advice, then I feel sorry for you.
    Just because there's all this data being put on here. It doesn't mean it's worth a damn.

    I'd venture a guess it's 90% x-rated stuff anyway.

    Edit: I see this has already been touched on by others.


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    Re: Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

    Quote Originally Posted by CYphyllis View Post
    The internet serves certain purposes, this is not one of those purposes. It's not that difficult to understand. The next time you find yourself in a situation follow this basic rule:

    You need tips on basic day to day activities? Go to the internet.

    You need help with an issue of a personal nature? Find a damn friend.
    What if you have gone to your friends and want other advice? Or maybe he couldn't offer any because he's never been in that kind of situation. Maybe his friend doesn't care. Maybe his friend is out on a 10-day safari trip and can't be contacted. Maybe he has no friends? Maybe he doesn't want his friend to know because his friend's wife is friends with his wife and might spill the beans.

    There is no cut and dry rule. If you want information and advice fast, go on the internet. It will at least give another opinion.


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    Re: Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

    Quote Originally Posted by MNCYWX View Post
    Just because there's all this data being put on here. It doesn't mean it's worth a damn.

    I'd venture a guess it's 90% x-rated stuff anyway.
    And 9.9% cat gifs.



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    Re: Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

    Quote Originally Posted by CyArob View Post
    And 9.9% cat gifs.
    And 0.1% CF


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    Re: Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

    Quote Originally Posted by MNCYWX View Post
    Just because there's all this data being put on here. It doesn't mean it's worth a damn.

    I'd venture a guess it's 90% x-rated stuff anyway.

    Edit: I see this has already been touched on by others.
    4% of the top 1million most visited webpages are porn related.

    13% of all web search is porn related.


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    Re: Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

    Quote Originally Posted by ISUCyclones2015 View Post
    What if you have gone to your friends and want other advice? Or maybe he couldn't offer any because he's never been in that kind of situation. Maybe his friend doesn't care. Maybe his friend is out on a 10-day safari trip and can't be contacted. Maybe he has no friends? Maybe he doesn't want his friend to know because his friend's wife is friends with his wife and might spill the beans.

    There is no cut and dry rule. If you want information and advice fast, go on the internet. It will at least give another opinion.
    Or you could rely on your own social intelligence - you know, that **** you should have been cultivating throughout the entirety of your existence.



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    I've never seen a thread derailed by a vigorous and odd apologetic for the Internet.
    As unexpected things go, this thread is really something, and I found it on the Internet.


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    Re: Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

    Quote Originally Posted by LindenCy View Post
    Personally, if she wants to go to counseling, I would do it, in part so you don't have "what ifs" to worry about. You could make it clear up front that you are at the point of wanting a divorce, but want to work it out (if you at all do). You've clearly been married a while, so this isn't the kind of thing that just suddenly disappears if you want out, especially if you have kids.

    You obviously are approaching this fairly seriously, and have had enough, but I'd see what counseling does. You have nothing to lose if you go, but possibly a lot to gain. If that doesn't help, you are going to get a divorce, which you wanted anyway.
    I agree with this. I would go to the counseling. Do everything you can to salvage the marriage, so you eliminate all "what ifs". That way, when you've done everything you can to do to save the marriage, you can be confident in whether or not going through with the divorce is the right call.

    Plus, if she is wanting to go to counseling, you can say you did it for her (but not as something to throw back in her face later on.)


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    Re: Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

    Quote Originally Posted by CYphyllis View Post
    The internet serves certain purposes, this is not one of those purposes. It's not that difficult to understand. The next time you find yourself in a situation follow this basic rule:

    You need tips on basic day to day activities? Go to the internet.

    You need help with an issue of a personal nature? Find a damn friend.
    Then your friend tells you to google it to resolve your personal problems.


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    Re: Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

    Quote Originally Posted by CYphyllis View Post
    Or you could rely on your own social intelligence - you know, that **** you should have been cultivating throughout the entirety of your existence.
    I could walk around NYC all day asking people if they are divorced an had received marriage counseling. Which would take an extreme amount of time to get any relevant information.

    OR

    I can go to the internet and get relevant information basically instantly


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    Re: Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

    Do you have children who are minors? I think you need to think long and hard about what's in the best interest of your children before you file for divorce. Think about the example you are setting for them.

    I feel sorry you are in this situation, but as hard as it is, try to think about the ramifications on your children. Be selfless and think of them first.

    That's just my two cents.



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