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    Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    I tried to post this here last week, but I had issues with my CF account and had to reset it:

    Each year I take my son back home to Oskaloosa to visit my Dad and go to a Cyclone football game together. After this years visit and tough loss against UNI, I wrote a reflection about our time together. It isn't so much about the game itself, as it is about all the things that happened because I returned home for the game.

    In it, I share the thoughts and emotions stirred up in me after going to a doctor's appointment with my dad about his recently diagnosed dementia, how we processed the loss to UNI, as well as scenes from our encounters with Sam Richardson (the DB) and his dad the morning after the loss. Meeting Mr. Richardson (the father) made quite an impression on me and reminded me of how so many wonderful families make up the Cyclone Nation.

    The reflection and a couple photos can be found here:

    http://robgarland.wordpress.com/




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    Re: Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    Nice story, thanks for sharing!



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    Re: Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    Very nice write up. It really is about more than "just a game."

    Sorry to hear about your father. He sounds like a solid Cyclone Fan



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    Re: Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    Brought some tears to my eyes. I too have seen my father as a mere mortal of late. His mind is still sound, but his physical health has been going. It's hard to face. I wish you and your family the best.


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    Re: Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    Thank you for sharing.



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    Re: Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    Fantastic. I really enjoyed this. Thanks for sharing.

    That is one of the things I love about sports - it is a means to an end to share precious time with family and friends. For me, and many people on this site, Cyclone football fulfills that role.

    I too wish you the best.



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    Re: Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    wow.

    fantastic story and writing.


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    Re: Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    What a great post.


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    Re: Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    Wish that story had been in "Which Stage of Grief Are You In" thread. That would have helped to bring immediate perspective to a bunch of us who forget how trivial this fun little game can really be. Thanks for posting your story.


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    Re: Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    Wow! Great story and well written. Thank you for sharing.



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    Re: Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    What an awesome story; thanks for sharing and I wish the most for you and your family. Hope you can continue your annual visits to Ames!


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    Re: Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    Nice post. My parents have had season tickets since the stadium opened in the 70's. Same seats. I started tagging along and playing tackle football on the west hillsides around the same age as your son. Since moving back to Iowa in 2006 I've had tickets and parked alongside my parents and other family since then. My father is 73. Still in good health. Yet it has entered my mind that these wonderful Saturdays together - that mean SO much to him - are not going to last forever. I'm 43 and my kids are 9 and 11. It's funny how we've reversed roles without even realizing it's happened. These games that get us so worked up are really a special way to enjoy time with family. Because it won't last. I've had two aunts in the past 3 years that are now unable to join our group due to health. Someday that will be my dad. And perhaps someday further down that will be me with my kids. There is no ****** to life. So enjoy the football losses for what they are. Time spent with those that matter most. For when they are gone, the football wins won't be as great.

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    Re: Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    Great read, thanks for sharing!



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    Re: Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    Great writing. Thank you for sharing.

    As a son, hopeful father within a few years, this really got me thinking. Moving 700+ miles away from my parents has been different, and although they are in good health, I know some day that will not be the case. This really helped remind me to cherish every moment.



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    Re: Reflections of a Father and Son After an Evening in Jack Trice

    Refreshing to see someone write that well with many of the same values I have. My dad is 68 now, and frankly he's a physical specimen after retiring from being a high school principal and taking up the hobby of being a local handyman (he has been a principal, teacher, and plumber in his life). He can literally outwork both my brother(30) and me(32). There's a will there that is amazing to see first hand, one that my brother and I still managed to witness despite the fact that my parents were divorced when I was three. (A testament to my father driving 2 hours each way for any and every event my brother and I ever had...)

    I think my favorite thing is seeing my own 2 year old son exhibit the same motor, work ethic, and intuition as my father. My wife even calls my son little-Ron after my dad sometimes. I'd like to believe that it's the same work ethic that was passed to me which is now being passed to my son, but in all reality, I see more of it in my son than what I do in myself. Of course he's two, but still...

    Now that I've moved back to the midwest (almost 2 years ago now), we finally got back into the tradition of going to a cabin in northern MN again. It had been 12 years since I had been there last (after going 11 straight years), and my dad has only missed one year in the last 23 years (he went to Sweden instead to visit their old foreign exchange student).

    Things were tight this year since my wife had been staying home with the twins, and luckily Dad got a cabin big enough for us to tag along with. I forgot how much I enjoyed that time with my father, and really enjoyed the time there with my kids while starting a new tradition for us. Luckily, my wife got a great teaching job at the very last minute (literally 12 hours before she was supposed to show up at 8am on a Monday). We were fortunate and able to find an affordable family daycare that seems to be a good fit (only 4 kids, 2 of them are ours) and didn't need to go the nanny route with the short notice. Both my wife and I really wanted to hire the nanny (in all fairness, for a nanny she was a steal) but after consulting with my mother, something she said stuck with me. She told me straight up that when we were kids she only had a few hundred dollars extra after all expenses every month, and that usually got eaten by immediate other needs such as doctors, auto repairs, new clothes and etc. As such she had always been envious that my dad had the extra income to take us to the cabin every year, and she wished she had those memories with us as well. The money we could save with the daycare (which was more than acceptable) would create memories for the kids that the nanny could never do.

    Last week my wife and I arranged for our own cabin next year... It'll be a new tradition for us, but hopefully one of many. We're finally back in a position where we can create memories with our kids, and Iowa State figures to also play a part in the near future. Season tickets are budgeted for next year, and while the kids will only be three, we are really looking forward to creating new fall traditions with them. Your three generation trip inspires me to make sure that this happens. Thank you for sharing.


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