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    Adultery in my workplace...

    My boss and my co-worker have had the very public appearance of a very private relationship for over a year now. I actually had to change cubes to get out of the line of fire as I got tired of all the cutesy sexual innuendo chat. Then last year, heard through the grapevine that the rumor was they WERE knocking boots. And to make it better, my co-workers husband sits about 40 feet away in another cube.

    I did the "proper" thing last year and informed my boss of the affair rumors thinking he was just being a ******* flirting with my co-worker and he'd check himself for professional office behavior. Their shenanigans continued and got worse (as did the rumor mill) until earlier this year when I approached one of my corporate coaches about how I should approach the situation. That was when I found out my co-worker and my friend about 40 feet away were getting divorced.

    So the company does an "investigation" and tells me that there was no "affair" to which I say "I don't care" since their antics have created an amazing rift and tension throughout our floor.

    THEN my friend getting divorced tells me about pages and pages of sex texts between my boss and my co-worker which the company does NOT know about. I've already been told by an executive to let it go even though my boss and my coworker are still both in my department.

    Other than the tricky legal ramifications of dropping the sexts on my VPs desk, should I just be a good boy and toe the line and just pretend that nothing has happened even though everyone laughs at these guys, and the office environment is toxic?



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    Re: Adultery in my workplace...

    This thread has promise....
    drop the bomb on your way out the door to your new job.



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    Re: Adultery in my workplace...

    Start job searching.



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    Re: Adultery in my workplace...

    You got it off your chest here. Leave it here. Like DurangoCy says, save it for your exit interview.


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    Re: Adultery in my workplace...

    Sounds like the "executive" probably has some skeletons in his closet as well that your boss probably knows about. "I'll sink this mother****ing Ship! If I go down, we're all going down."



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    Re: Adultery in my workplace...

    Quote Originally Posted by DurangoCy View Post
    This thread has promise....
    drop the bomb on your way out the door to your new job.
    This is a toughie for me... Love my work, hate my work environment. Love the pension and benefits and pay, hate to see unethical and inappropriate behavior rule the day. I'm older now (49) so the idea of falling on my sword is less and less appealing. Besides I've done enough of that and have the scars to prove it.

    Maybe for now I'll just vent to ya'll.



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    Re: Adultery in my workplace...

    No way you can win. If your friend hasnt reported you shouldn't.



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    Re: Adultery in my workplace...

    Is there no HR department?



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    Re: Adultery in my workplace...

    Two things I've learned

    1. Don't try to hook up with co-workers

    2. Stay out of co-workers drama

    Just try to ignore it. That would be my advice


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    Re: Adultery in my workplace...

    If you have proof, I would go to HR with the information. You could be saving your company a ton of money from a lawsuit in the future. If you don't care about the company, I would just watch it burn.



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    Re: Adultery in my workplace...

    You can't really do a whole lot without having people think that your friend 40 feet away did it to get back at his soon to be ex-wife. I'd take the guy she's divorcing out for beers, and if nothing comes up, I'd let it go, I guess.

    I now understand why things like these always go through HR where I work. If running it through a fairly independent HR person or division is an option, I'd go that route.



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    Re: Adultery in my workplace...

    If you are good friend with the guy 40 feet away from you, you should tell him to contact a lawyer. I won't go into detail, but based on observations of a similar rumored situation he likely has a case and you could quite possibly have a new supervisor.

    Beyond that I would refrain from discussing on a message board. No good can really come of this.



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    Re: Adultery in my workplace...

    I think the ancient greeks had the right idea about economics, they viewed work as a way to self-sustain yourself in an almost biological way. Just a way to perpetuate yourself and remain alive. Enjoyment and self-fulfillment came outside the workplace. I guess I never understood people taking the crosses they bear at work and letting that cloud the good part of their life, but I'm 22 and I tend to let things roll off my shoulders.



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    Confront them.



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