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    Non-Catholic Marrying Catholic

    Anyone here have that experience? I was raised Luthern, but some of this marriage prep stuff seems odd.



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    Re: Non-Catholic Marrying Catholic

    I was raised protestant and married a catholic. We have had our fair share of discussions/disagreements but have agreed on the foundation of our beliefs. We actually are sponsor couples for those in the same situation we were in. Feel free to PM me if any questions. I've probably felt and noticed a lot of the same things you have/do.


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    Re: Non-Catholic Marrying Catholic

    I did it about three years ago. I think the marriage prep requirements are pretty heavily dependent on what priest/church is marrying you. Are you doing the whole RCIA/RCRA conversion thing?



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    Re: Non-Catholic Marrying Catholic

    I went down that road 5 years ago, and the questionnaire stuff basically said we weren't very compatible and should thinks seriously about and discuss our marriage. We scoffed at it, didn't bat an eye, and lasted a little over 4 years.

    Hopefully you and your fiance see eye to eye on most issues or can find middle ground where you might not.

    By the way, I am still a practicing Catholic after converting before our marriage.



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    Re: Non-Catholic Marrying Catholic

    I have to watch some videos called "Good News about Sex & Marriage."




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    Re: Non-Catholic Marrying Catholic

    Quote Originally Posted by cycopath25 View Post
    I have to watch some videos called "Good News about Sex & Marriage."

    I forgot about all the natural child planning stuff... We were lucky to get a priest that made that course optional and a sponsor couple who, while the believed in and followed it, didn't try to push it on us and just sort of presented it as something to think about and left it alone. The fact that they had 7 kids probably didn't make them real confident in trying to sell that concept to a young couple, lol.



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    Re: Non-Catholic Marrying Catholic

    Quote Originally Posted by MNCyGuy View Post
    I forgot about all the natural child planning stuff... We were lucky to get a priest that made that course optional and a sponsor couple who, while the believed in and followed it, didn't try to push it on us and just sort of presented it as something to think about and left it alone. The fact that they had 7 kids probably didn't make them real confident in trying to sell that concept to a young couple, lol.
    So how do I address the fact that my future spouse wants 4 kids. I want 2 so we are planning on having 3?



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    Quote Originally Posted by cycopath25 View Post
    So how do I address the fact that my future spouse wants 4 kids. I want 2 so we are planning on having 3?
    I'm not sure I understand the question. It sounds like you guys have already talked about it and addressed the issue. I think that's like 90% of the reason the Catholic church makes couples go through the counseling, to eliminate all the young couples that go "oooo pretty ring! wedding planning!" but don't take the time to actually consider what their life together will be.



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    Re: Non-Catholic Marrying Catholic

    Quote Originally Posted by cycopath25 View Post
    So how do I address the fact that my future spouse wants 4 kids. I want 2 so we are planning on having 3?
    Ha. We had that talk before we were married too and my wife was adamant about having kids in 7 years and she wanted 2. By our 7th year of marriage we had knocked out #3 and now she wants 4.


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    Re: Non-Catholic Marrying Catholic

    I am a Catholic, married a Jehovah's Witness... it is definitely weird stuff there. SOME priests are more weird about it than others. A lot of the silly stuff mostly happens if you are planning on having a priest marry you (which would mean Catholic church wedding). Just be thankful you aren't marrying in to the old school Catholics. It is definitely easier than having a priest bless the wedding after you're married.



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    Re: Non-Catholic Marrying Catholic

    Quote Originally Posted by Cyclonetrombone View Post
    I am a Catholic, married a Jehovah's Witness... it is definitely weird stuff there. SOME priests are more weird about it than others. A lot of the silly stuff mostly happens if you are planning on having a priest marry you (which would mean Catholic church wedding). Just be thankful you aren't marrying in to the old school Catholics. It is definitely easier than having a priest bless the wedding after you're married.
    wow i bet that wasnt easy....not judging anything considering im baptist christian dating an atheist btw ....but i know how hard completely different views are because it spills over to many aspects especially come election times.



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    Re: Non-Catholic Marrying Catholic

    Quote Originally Posted by chadly82 View Post
    wow i bet that wasnt easy....not judging anything considering im baptist christian dating an atheist btw ....but i know how hard completely different views are because it spills over to many aspects especially come election times.
    What type of counseling do you have to take to become an atheist?



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    Quote Originally Posted by NickTheGreat View Post
    What type of counseling do you have to take to become an atheist?
    Maybe a psychiatrist to keep my sanity type of counseling.....it tests my faith in the power of prayer to say the least.



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    Quote Originally Posted by chadly82 View Post
    Maybe a psychiatrist to keep my sanity type of counseling.....it tests my faith in the power of prayer to say the least.
    The function of prayer is not to influence God, but rather to change the nature of the one who prays.



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    Re: Non-Catholic Marrying Catholic

    Quote Originally Posted by chadly82 View Post
    wow i bet that wasnt easy....not judging anything considering im baptist christian dating an atheist btw ....but i know how hard completely different views are because it spills over to many aspects especially come election times.
    We hashed out a lot of the things before we even got to any point of being serious and it was definitely interesting talking with the priest about all of it. In the end, (due to her family) we got married in a non denominational chapel and had my priest bless the marriage after the fact. Without the class stuff I have a sneaking suspicion that he would have been pretty reluctant.



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