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    A Nation of Wimps

    Didn't see this posted here, a couple Facebook friends posted it so I thought I'd share. Found it interesting in so many ways. It's not a bad thing for parents to want what's best for their kids, but what they perceive as "best" amounts to shielding their kids from the realities of life, and hurt them in the long run.

    A Nation of Wimps | Psychology Today

    No one doubts that there are significant economic forces pushing parents to invest so heavily in their children's outcome from an early age. But taking all the discomfort, disappointment and even the play out of development, especially while increasing pressure for success, turns out to be misguided by just about 180 degrees. With few challenges all their own, kids are unable to forge their creative adaptations to the normal vicissitudes of life. That not only makes them risk-averse, it makes them psychologically fragile, riddled with anxiety. In the process they're robbed of identity, meaning and a sense of accomplishment, to say nothing of a shot at real happiness. Forget, too, about perseverance, not simply amoral virtue but a necessary life skill. These turn out to be the spreading psychic fault lines of 21st-century youth. Whether we want to or not, we're on our way to creating a nation of wimps.
    Parents are always so concerned about children having high self-esteem, he adds. "But when you cheat on their behalf to get them ahead of other children"—by pursuing accommodations and recommendations—you just completely corrode their sense of self. They feel 'I couldn't do this on my own.' It robs them of their own sense of efficacy." A child comes to think, "if I need every advantage I can get, then perhaps there is really something wrong with me." A slam-dunk for depression.



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    Re: A Nation of Wimps

    Did Ron Swanson write that article?? Sounds like a sequel to his Pyramid of Greatness.



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    Re: A Nation of Wimps

    I expected this to be about Hawkeye Nation. dangit


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    Re: A Nation of Wimps

    Quote Originally Posted by intrepid27 View Post
    Did Ron Swanson write that article?? Sounds like a sequel to his Pyramid of Greatness.
    If kids avoided skim milk like the Pyramid says, we wouldn't have any problems



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    Re: A Nation of Wimps

    Quote Originally Posted by Cyched View Post
    Didn't see this posted here, a couple Facebook friends posted it so I thought I'd share. Found it interesting in so many ways. It's not a bad thing for parents to want what's best for their kids, but what they perceive as "best" amounts to shielding their kids from the realities of life, and hurt them in the long run.

    A Nation of Wimps | Psychology Today
    long story short, the crappy overbearing parent is just as bad as the crappy absentee parent. Is this really a shock to anyone?


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    Re: A Nation of Wimps

    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Janny View Post
    long story short, the crappy overbearing parent is just as bad as the crappy absentee parent. Is this really a shock to anyone?
    I think the key is the crappy part.



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    Re: A Nation of Wimps

    There is no doubt we are becoming bigger whimps and complaining about more things every year



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    Re: A Nation of Wimps

    Quote Originally Posted by Brad4Cyclones View Post
    There is no doubt we are becoming bigger whimps and complaining about more things every year
    maybe your kid. Mine still drives rails with a sledge hammer, rather than let the steam powered hammer do all the work, like a *****.


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    Re: A Nation of Wimps

    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Janny View Post
    maybe your kid.
    Apply lotion directly to the burn.



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    Re: A Nation of Wimps

    Quote Originally Posted by Brad4Cyclones View Post
    There is no doubt we are becoming bigger whimps and complaining about more things every year
    speak for yourself


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    Re: A Nation of Wimps

    Quote Originally Posted by Brad4Cyclones View Post
    There is no doubt we are becoming bigger whimps and complaining about more things every year
    I think there are just more things to complain about then there used to be. Course, I'm a glass half full kinda guy



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    Re: A Nation of Wimps

    These damn wimpy kids will grow up to be a bunch of liberal *******!

    EDIT: Ooops! I assumed this was already in the cave.


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    Re: A Nation of Wimps

    Of course the people reading this will believe it applies to everyone else BUT them.



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    Re: A Nation of Wimps

    Quote Originally Posted by GoCubsGo View Post
    Of course the people reading this will believe it applies to everyone else BUT them.
    My precious little offspring never do anything wrong.


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    Re: A Nation of Wimps

    I've tried to impart to my son that failure is as important as success, perhaps more so because you learn more from it. I agree, in the general sense, that our society has overcompensated in favor of self esteem, and that limiting exposure to failure probably does more harm than good.



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