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    Dating Question

    I have been married for nearly 20 years and got married right out of college. I now have a son in HS and of dating age. It appears to me that the dating game has changed significantly since I was playing it. Today, there seems to be very little "couples dating"...most of the time they are doing what I call "pack dating" (going out together in a group of anywhere from 4 to upwards of 20 people).

    Two questions:

    --Is this type of "pack dating" typical around the country for HS aged kids?

    --What is the predominant style of dating for college aged kids? Do they still pack date or is the couples dating more prevelant?

    Just curious...thanks!



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    Re: Dating Question

    I think pack dating is pretty safe. It helps to see what potential significant others are like with others. When its one on one its hard to flush out personalities. You tend to be more reserved.



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    Re: Dating Question

    Quote Originally Posted by cyclone#1 View Post
    --What is the predominant style of dating for college aged kids? Do they still pack date or is the couples dating more prevelant?

    College dating consists of, hey you wanna come over and watch a movie? Girl comes over, leaves next morning, waits and sees if guy calls... Guy waits to see if girl answers or calls back... If he calls and she answers or calls back, its a relationship



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    Re: Dating Question

    I think pack dating is more common. My friend has a 15 year old and they all go in groups to movies, get-togethers, dances, etc.

    Personally, I would feel more safe as a parent with pack dating then one on one.

    In college my now husband and I went out with friends a lot. Probably every 1 out of 5 times we went out we were alone.


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    Re: Dating Question

    My wife and I did that a lot too. Actually, her brother and I were friends back in junior high, and now have the same circle of friends that we hang out with. That's actually how I met my wife (his sister) - from that circle of friends. And I'd say we hung out with that circle about as much as we did the alone time.


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    Re: Dating Question

    Your boy is the guy. Do not worry. it is the fathers of the daughters who have a bigger dog in the fight.


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    Re: Dating Question

    I'd say "pack" dating in High school is fairly common...
    In college too probally (Go out with groups of friends on a Friday night, bring along the significant other), however you get someone 1 on 1 in there too. My roomate(s) (aka my roommate and his gf) will go out on private dates from time to time, and hang out with a group of people the rest of the time.

    Personally I think the mix is a good combination so you have some alone/serious time with the other person, but you're still interacting with other people besides your bf/gf. When you do just the solo dating, it can be easy to isolate yourself from your friends


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    Re: Dating Question

    If I had a daughter, I would be all for pack dating.



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    Re: Dating Question

    I have a buddy that has three girls. All of them are teenagers or getting close to being a teenager.
    He's told me, on more than one occassion, that "With a boy you only have to worry about one in the county. With a girl you have to worry about every boy in the county."
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    Re: Dating Question

    Quote Originally Posted by Cyclonepride View Post
    If I had a daughter, I would be all for pack dating.
    Ditto. I think I would make it a requirement until age... 25. Maybe longer.


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    Re: Dating Question

    I think that mixing pack and couples dating is a good idea. In my last relationship in seems like we had too high of a couples-to-pack ratio for me, I would have liked it better had we gone out with a bigger group of more people, it's good to have time with each other, but also good to have time together with friends.



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    Re: Dating Question

    Quote Originally Posted by SuperCy View Post
    I have a buddy that has three girls. All of them are teenagers or getting close to being a teenager.
    He's told me, on more than one occassion, that "With a boy you only have to worry about one in the county. With a girl you have to worry about every boy in the county."
    Believe me, I cleaned it up.
    If anyone has heard Rodney Atkins song "Cleaning This Gun (Come on in Boy)" it is a true but funny song that has to be the way all fathers feel.

    Bill Engvall has a good philosophy on it too: "I'm gonna pull the young man in tight next to me so only he and I can hear the conversation. I'm gonna whisper in his ear. I'm gonna say, "Boy, look at me. You see that little girl there? That's my only little girl. She's my life. So if you have any thought about hugging or kissing, you remember these words: I got no problem going back to prison."



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    Re: Dating Question

    Quote Originally Posted by bostinelosd View Post
    I think pack dating is pretty safe. It helps to see what potential significant others are like with others. When its one on one its hard to flush out personalities. You tend to be more reserved.
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    Re: Dating Question

    At first, a couple seems to "pack date". Once they've been together for awhile, the couple typically spends more time to themselves. Of course, things could have changed already. I'm in my 4th year of college, but have been with my girlfriend since I was a junior in high school.



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    Quote Originally Posted by price26 View Post
    If anyone has heard Rodney Atkins song "Cleaning This Gun (Come on in Boy)" it is a true but funny song that has to be the way all fathers feel.

    Bill Engvall has a good philosophy on it too: "I'm gonna pull the young man in tight next to me so only he and I can hear the conversation. I'm gonna whisper in his ear. I'm gonna say, "Boy, look at me. You see that little girl there? That's my only little girl. She's my life. So if you have any thought about hugging or kissing, you remember these words: I got no problem going back to prison."
    Good song... haven't heard the Bill Engvall one, but I good stuff too!

    Quote Originally Posted by 4429 mcc View Post
    Two words: Rainbow party.
    Hmm yeah I was wondering wether to mention stuff like that or not...
    That would be the downside to pack dating. I forget the county... but back in '96 there was a county in Georgia (near Atlanta) that had a sypillus out break...

    Since you can't even mention anatomy here... (Sorry admins, not a personal shot there), I can't really go into the details of what went on that led to 200 teenagers needing shots, however I can probally say that you still need to keep an eye on the kids when they're pack dating, watch out for groups of them hanging out at someone's house, especially if parents are gone...

    well you get the idea. Since I'm not a parent, you guys probally have a pretty good idea of what to watch out for... unfortuantly for that community in Georgia, the parents did not ask questions, did not check on the kids, ect ect, and things got quite interesting


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