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    Family Drama Question?

    Anybody else have any family members that you've had to cut ties with as it's not worth the drama?

    Just trying to figure out if it's just my family that is dysfunctional or maybe I'm just a "Richard". Family means a lot to me, but there are just a couple of members I no longer associate with because there are always issues.


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    Re: Family Drama Question?

    Quote Originally Posted by 19210 View Post
    Anybody else have any family members that you've had to cut ties with as it's not worth the drama?

    Just trying to figure out if it's just my family that is dysfunctional or maybe I'm just a "Richard". Family means a lot to me, but there are just a couple of members I no longer associate with because there is always issues.

    Not trying to be mean but how old are you?


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    Re: Family Drama Question?

    No, fortunately not. My extended family is very even tempered and responsible, though the families I've met through marriages and dating show me how very lucky I am in that regard (my current in laws are great).



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    Re: Family Drama Question?

    My immediate family is pretty good other then my brother just got a divorce and don't see relations continuing with his ex who has a lot of "issues".

    Have been pretty fortunate overall in that respect.

    It happens a lot however. People are just so different and egos and honesty(or lack of) can get in the way pretty quick.


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    Re: Family Drama Question?

    Quote Originally Posted by clonomaniac View Post
    Not trying to be mean but how old are you?
    I'm 40 so I don't think it's because I'm childish. I've always been the one who has looked out for and helped in times of need. It's just when they keep taking and don't have respect for anybody, but themselves, I had to say enough is enough.



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    Re: Family Drama Question?

    Not cut ties with per say, but I don't go out of my way to see my sister, I just don't care for the way she lives her life, she lives 10 minutes away and I'll see her every couple months typically.



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    Re: Family Drama Question?

    I don't speak with either of my parents. My dad is a bum that didn't feel the need to be around when I was growing up so I'm just returning the favor. My mom and I get a long more or less but she's married to a guy who should be going to prison soon for something I'm of the opinion he should be strung up from the highest tree in the county for and has took out a morgage on her house to hire a lawyer for the guy. I won't have my kids around that. Sure it's a bit painful around the holidays but it's better in the long run I believe.



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    Re: Family Drama Question?

    When it comes to keeping in contact, I am the worst in general so if I don't like someone, i just never talk to them. I don't avoid anyone, i just hate talking on the phone. Immediate family is the only exception.



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    Re: Family Drama Question?

    Quote Originally Posted by 19210 View Post
    Just trying to figure out if it's just my family that is dysfunctional or maybe I'm just a "Richard".
    I'd cut any family member that uses the term "Richard". Kidding!
    Seriously, I cut my sister out five years ago for being 10 kinds of crazy. It sucks but sometimes you gotta clean up the clutter.


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    Re: Family Drama Question?

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    Just remember life is short so think twice about long term grudges.


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    Re: Family Drama Question?

    Quote Originally Posted by mj4cy View Post
    Just remember life is short so think twice about long term grudges.

    I think there's a sizable difference between holding a grudge and cutting someone out of your life because they have a harmful impact on you. Life is short, which is why you sometimes need to sever ties with someone who only has the ability to drag you down.


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    Re: Family Drama Question?

    My aunt and uncle have been essentially exiled from the family. They have 3 kids and up until a few months ago the family would send gifts out for the kids for birthdays/holidays/etc. Well turns out my aunt was taking all of the gifts which were sent out there and returning them to buy herself gifts instead. This is a woman who doesn't work, spends 14 hours per day on Facebook, and is an awful parent.

    Truly is a shame my (used to be) kick *** uncle married the biggest ***** on the planet.



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    Re: Family Drama Question?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Janny View Post
    I think there's a sizable difference between holding a grudge and cutting someone out of your life because they have a harmful impact on you. Life is short, which is why you sometimes need to sever ties with someone who only has the ability to drag you down.

    Definitely agree. I guess I meant, make sure you have good reasoning with your decisions. I know people who aren't on speaking terms over the dumbest things.


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    Re: Family Drama Question?

    Depends on the situation. Wife's brother is currently incarcerated for selling meth and violating parole for failure to pay child support. Have no interest in bringing him around my kids when he gets out. First time he spent 10 months, then got out, was going to change, all that BS.

    If you or your kids safety is compromised by having a family member around you or your kids, then it is absolutely ok to cut that person out of your life. If other family members can't understand that, then to heck with them as well.



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