Any Recently Divorced CF'ers?

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  1. TXCyclones

    TXCyclones Well-Known Member

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    After years of issues and months of agonizing I think I've reached "that point". I've visited with two attorneys and the only thing left is to just do it. Anybody else out there gone through this recently or pondering the same?
     
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  2. ISUCyclones2015

    ISUCyclones2015 Well-Known Member

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    From the other threads you have mentioned her in (though I don't remember any recently) I would say just do it. Bite the bullet and do it
     
  3. MaccloNe

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    She is in love with Freddy. Move on.
     
  4. awd4cy

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    If she is a giant ***** I would do it.
     
  5. GrindingAway

    GrindingAway Well-Known Member

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    Fixed it for you.

    I'm expecting this to be a depressing thread
     
  6. TXCyclones

    TXCyclones Well-Known Member

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    Everyone who meets her for the first time thinks she's great. She's bubbly and energetic and very nice... to everyone else. I get the leftovers, the gossip, the nagging, etc. We've done counseling 9 years ago when we were in crisis and she stopped going because she decided she was out of crisis, and chose not to work on other personal issues that lead us there. She's saying she wants to go to counseling now, but I don't - I'm done. Just curious if others here have gone through it. A bit worried about the "next step".
     
  7. CYphyllis

    CYphyllis Well-Known Member

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    My advice - don't go to the ******* internet for advice.
     
  8. Cyclonepride

    Cyclonepride Moderator
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    Well, now I'm curious what type of internet I shouldn't go to.
     
  9. ISUCyclones2015

    ISUCyclones2015 Well-Known Member

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    Why not? The internet is the greatest invention of all time. It is the only thing EVER created where you can instantly connect with MILLIONS of people from all walks of life, background, race, and countries in one place. Where are you going to get that type of information from just one person? NO WHERE but the internet.

    In 2014 alone there will be an INCREASE of information of 200 exabytes over 2013. To put that in perspective that is more than all data that there was in 2010 available on the internet. In 2015 estimates are near 500 exabytes. 1 exabyte is over a BILLION gigabytes. It is estimated that the human brain is only roughly 1 terabyte large (1000 gigabytes). The internet just added a terabyte in the ten seconds it took me to write this sentence.

    So if you don't go to the internet for advice, then I feel sorry for you.
     
  10. erikbj

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    If you have kids.....can you live with seeing them part time?

    Maybe you should watch the Dexter series and learn some pointers
     
  11. CycloneDaddy

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    The dating pool will be small for you .... You will be dating other divorced women with kids. If you are that unhappy that you are willing to end it then good luck out there. Grass isn't always greener .....
     
  12. Rabbuk

    Rabbuk Well-Known Member

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    Rub your nuts on all her belongings on the way out.
     
  13. CYphyllis

    CYphyllis Well-Known Member

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    Do you understand the difference between good information and the **** you get from the internet? If you don't, then I feel sorry for you.
     
  14. CYEATHAWK

    CYEATHAWK Well-Known Member

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    Not recently, but been there done that. I am truly sorry you are to this point because I remember like it was yesterday. And I don't wish it on anyone. The entire process is a turd sandwich....and everyone but the attorneys have to take a bite! All I can say is keep your chin up and it might be some cold consulation because it was suppose to be for life....when a door closes....another opens. And that other door for me has been open going on 17 years with 3 beautiful daughters. So it is not the end of the world. Best of luck to you and yours.
     
  15. CycloneErik

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    Factor in the anonymity involved, too, where we can just provide anything and pretend it's advice.

    To pile on, volume of information doesn't equate to quality. I feel sorry for people that can't figure that out.
     
  16. ISUCyclones2015

    ISUCyclones2015 Well-Known Member

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    Then why the hell are you on the internet then? Why even bother? You always have to sort through good and bad information no matter where you get it from.
     
  17. LindenCy

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    Personally, if she wants to go to counseling, I would do it, in part so you don't have "what ifs" to worry about. You could make it clear up front that you are at the point of wanting a divorce, but want to work it out (if you at all do). You've clearly been married a while, so this isn't the kind of thing that just suddenly disappears if you want out, especially if you have kids.

    You obviously are approaching this fairly seriously, and have had enough, but I'd see what counseling does. You have nothing to lose if you go, but possibly a lot to gain. If that doesn't help, you are going to get a divorce, which you wanted anyway.
     
  18. Cyclonepride

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    I'm sorry, but this is the internet, and therefore I cannot take your advice.
     
  19. CYphyllis

    CYphyllis Well-Known Member

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    The internet serves certain purposes, this is not one of those purposes. It's not that difficult to understand. The next time you find yourself in a situation follow this basic rule:

    You need tips on basic day to day activities? Go to the internet.

    You need help with an issue of a personal nature? Find a damn friend.
     
  20. MNCYWX

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    Just because there's all this data being put on here. It doesn't mean it's worth a damn.

    I'd venture a guess it's 90% x-rated stuff anyway.

    Edit: I see this has already been touched on by others.
     

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